A happy family is something that everyone wishes for. Unfortunately, it is impossible for families to be happy all the time. There are many types of crises that families go through, a few examples are, loss of a family member, loss of a job or divorce. Bad things happen no matter how good of a person we are. It is how we handle a crisis that affects our family the most. The first time I got married was right after I graduated high school. Little did I know my life was about to be one crisis after another. My first husband turned out to be a dangerous and crazy crack head. A few of the things he did during our marriage was, he shot my dog, put a gun to my mother’s head, vandalized my parent’s car, cheated on me, threatened to burn down my
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This was one week after our youngest daughters first birthday. Thankfully, we have not seen him in thirteen years. After he left I filled for divorce and a restraining order. It took me almost a year to get a divorce; he would not accept the papers so I had to run it in the newspapers for two weeks. I knew I had to protect my girls and the only way to do this was to get him out of our lives. Luckily my girls were three and one years old and do not remember much about …show more content…
It is important to set blame aside and not finger point at whose fault it is. One’s energy needs to be focused on solving the problem and setting anger aside will help. Prioritizing problems is also important. One should tackle the one problem at a time with the most pressing problem first. When going through a crisis, one should try to put their self in the shoes of others; it is easy to forget how a crisis affects other people involved. Another way to overcome a crisis is to re-engineer the family unit. I did this by divorcing my husband, this solved most of my problems. One should also realize that everyone in the family is affected by a crisis. When one is only dealing with the person in need, one is only dealing with half of the situation. Everyone needs to be able to tell how they feel in order for the family to work through their problems. One should also remember not to get stuck in the past. Do not waste time thinking about how the situation could have been handled differently; instead focus on changing one’s behavior today and the future of one’s family (McGraw,
This was one week after our youngest daughters first birthday. Thankfully, we have not seen him in thirteen years. After he left I filled for divorce and a restraining order. It took me almost a year to get a divorce; he would not accept the papers so I had to run it in the newspapers for two weeks. I knew I had to protect my girls and the only way to do this was to get him out of our lives. Luckily my girls were three and one years old and do not remember much about …show more content…
It is important to set blame aside and not finger point at whose fault it is. One’s energy needs to be focused on solving the problem and setting anger aside will help. Prioritizing problems is also important. One should tackle the one problem at a time with the most pressing problem first. When going through a crisis, one should try to put their self in the shoes of others; it is easy to forget how a crisis affects other people involved. Another way to overcome a crisis is to re-engineer the family unit. I did this by divorcing my husband, this solved most of my problems. One should also realize that everyone in the family is affected by a crisis. When one is only dealing with the person in need, one is only dealing with half of the situation. Everyone needs to be able to tell how they feel in order for the family to work through their problems. One should also remember not to get stuck in the past. Do not waste time thinking about how the situation could have been handled differently; instead focus on changing one’s behavior today and the future of one’s family (McGraw,