My mother did a great job of breaking the cycle of abuse, that her parent taught her and they’re parent taught them. Max Lucado said, “The past does not have to be your prison. You have a voice in your destiny. You have a say in your life. You have a choice in the path you take.” My mother did just that, she always thought life should be better and parenting should be done better. This drive to be a better parent than her parents was the reason my mother almost tackled a pair of LDS missionaries. Alan was authoritarian, when I was younger. We would get yelled at and spanked for bad behavior often. Alan would often use “tools” to help him spank us. I am the middle of 7 kids and from what I remember Alan never spanked the younger child. Alan want through a parenting change when we moving to California in 2000. My mother had enough of the abuse to her children, and told my father if he didn’t change she was going to divorce him. My father made a 100% turn around. After that turning point on both my parents had an authoritative mindset. They set very clear rules for most of their children. I say most because my youngest sister could always get away with murder. Alanna the youngest girl, always get her way and never get into …show more content…
Before, I was a father. I was short tempered, but the only person I was never short tempered with was my wife. Since being a father, I have to remember myself, to be warm and loving. I have to remember to breath. I have to channel what my parents taught me. I have an autistic son, who can push me to my limits. Most of the time he doesn’t know any better and I need to remember that. My wife has these quotes on the wall of our home,
• “Yelling silences your message. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words instead of just your voice.” L.R. Knost.
• “Explain the ‘Why’ to rules.” Unknown
• “Let’s raise children who won’t have to recover from their childhoods” Pam Leo.
My wife put those up not because we are bad parents, but because we have to be good parents. President Harold B. Lee said, “The most important work we will ever do is within the walls of our own