Personal Narrative: My Family: Alan Vs. Patti

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My household went through a few transition throughout my childhood. My parents had switched between many of these stages at some point in my 24 years I lived in their home. As a now 29-year-old with a wife and two sons, I think this quote from Kelly Barlett explains what my parents tried to teach my siblings and I, “Some of the most important thinks you can communicate to a child are that feelings are okay, mistakes are fixable, and there’s nothing they could do that would push you away or make you love them less. Both my parents, Alan and Patti grow up in Authoritarian households. Patti’s household was by way worst is conditions. Her parents would very often spank and use other physical forms of punishment. My mother would often tell me that …show more content…
My mother did a great job of breaking the cycle of abuse, that her parent taught her and they’re parent taught them. Max Lucado said, “The past does not have to be your prison. You have a voice in your destiny. You have a say in your life. You have a choice in the path you take.” My mother did just that, she always thought life should be better and parenting should be done better. This drive to be a better parent than her parents was the reason my mother almost tackled a pair of LDS missionaries. Alan was authoritarian, when I was younger. We would get yelled at and spanked for bad behavior often. Alan would often use “tools” to help him spank us. I am the middle of 7 kids and from what I remember Alan never spanked the younger child. Alan want through a parenting change when we moving to California in 2000. My mother had enough of the abuse to her children, and told my father if he didn’t change she was going to divorce him. My father made a 100% turn around. After that turning point on both my parents had an authoritative mindset. They set very clear rules for most of their children. I say most because my youngest sister could always get away with murder. Alanna the youngest girl, always get her way and never get into …show more content…
Before, I was a father. I was short tempered, but the only person I was never short tempered with was my wife. Since being a father, I have to remember myself, to be warm and loving. I have to remember to breath. I have to channel what my parents taught me. I have an autistic son, who can push me to my limits. Most of the time he doesn’t know any better and I need to remember that. My wife has these quotes on the wall of our home,
• “Yelling silences your message. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words instead of just your voice.” L.R. Knost.
• “Explain the ‘Why’ to rules.” Unknown
• “Let’s raise children who won’t have to recover from their childhoods” Pam Leo.
My wife put those up not because we are bad parents, but because we have to be good parents. President Harold B. Lee said, “The most important work we will ever do is within the walls of our own

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