Essay The Importance Of Being A Good Listener

1606 Words Oct 5th, 2015 null Page
Being a good listener is extremely important. It helps you to understand where the person is at and what state of mind they are in. It also helps you to communicate with that person and help them to solve whatever problem they might be going through. It lets them know that you understand the situation and you possibly have empathy with them because you may have been through the same thing. According to Capps, it is important to be a good listener. To be a good listener, you must follow three important things. Attention, appreciation and affirmation. In emphasizing attention, he wants to make the point that better listening does not begin with techniques instead, it starts with making a sincere effort to pay attention to what is going on in the conversation partner’s private world of experience. Some individual comments, may help to open another person up! “Tough day?” “Are you worried about something?” “Is something bothering you?” This is not, however, technique, but simply saying something that indicates a willingness to listen. (pg. 23 Capps) If you prove you are willing to listen to someone’s conversation they will open up to you and trust your advice if offered. Most of the time a person just wants to be heard and know that they have a friend to listen to them whenever needed. As for appreciation, Nichols advises showing genuine appreciation for the other’s point of view. One should assume, until proven otherwise, that the other person has a valid and…

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