Reflection Paper On Communication With Others
Whether we are trying to improve communication with our close people, we can improve the communication skills that enable us to effectively connect with others, understand better and listen carefully. Nothing, but understanding can be the most important between people. Even your spouse can move away from you, or take a distance because of the misunderstood and vagueness.
I can say, that communication is more than just exchanging some information. It 's about understanding the emotion and implicit signals and sighs …show more content…
Getting new information, I try to use it, to apply in practice, to check the efficiency of theories.
My closest person is wife. I tried to practice all communication skills I learned in our relationships. I thought it will be amazing to practice new knowledge and, as a benefit, to improve and to strengthen our relationships.
I discovered for myself that one of the most difficult skills for me is listening her. No, I perfectly hear her, but the problem is I don’t recognize the importance of explicit or implicit information. I don’t mind about details, intonations, movements or other signs. I realized that this lack of listening skills is one of the most important problem-maker in our family.
I tried to find the reason where this misunderstanding comes from. Standpoint Theory takes a place here also. I often interpret the behavior of my wife through my own position, vision, gender features of thinking. This is not only about talking. I always think she need some quite time to relax if she looks sad or tired. That is because I like to be alone in quite place when I need to recover. Same with talking: for me it’s just talk, nothing important; for her talking means more, it is way to get rid of stress or …show more content…
I’ve read it maybe twice and have opened for myself a big difference between listening and hearing. My spouse often asks me “Did you hear me?” “Of course, I did”, I answer. I can even repeat everything she said. She goes sad. Why? I think about my job, my routine, bank accounts, but I hear what she say. Step by step, and chapter by chapter, I started to understand the difference between hearing and listening on this very private family level.
When you really listen, you’ll hear intonations of voice that tell you how that person is feeling. When you are an engaged listener, you can make that person feel heard and understood, which is priceless sometimes, and obviously can help build a stronger, deeper connection between you.
People often concentrate on what they have to say, but what is more important for effective communication is about listening. Listening well means not just understanding the words or the information, but understanding the emotions the speaker is trying to