Personal Narrative: Black Girl Dating

The most recent event about race that has been on my mind lately, was my senior year of high school. My days as a high school senior was one of the worst times of my life, but it was also the most enlightening time of my life. During that year, I understood what it meant to be a black girl dating, and the depressing consequences that my stereotype placed on me. I went to Springbrook high school in Silver Spring, Maryland. The area I lived in and the school is racially made up of mostly black and hispanic kids. However, my senior year of high school, I was in the International Baccalaureate Diploma Program made up of mostly white kids. These group of boys and girls were all friends and were called the “white squad” by the rest of the high …show more content…
Nick seemed like the controlling sex craved boyfriend, while Monica was the weak and fragile girlfriend. A while I stopped caring about it the relationship, until Nick found his way back into my phone and into my life. This time he was adamant about hooking up, but I stopped him because he had a girlfriend. Sooner or later we graduated and I was away from it all. It wasn’t until one of the white girls broke away from the group our college freshman year, did I realized that Nick was a boy that “didn’t date black girls.” I’ll be honest, I was shocked how this man did not date black girls when he was consistently talking to numerous black girls in our school. I was still confused until my Introduction to Black Culture class. In that class, we discussed the implications of the strong and angry black women stereotype, and how that correlates to how men of all races see as potential dating partners. Men would rather be with women who are weaker than them, particularly more submissive. Black women have never been submissive or weak. We have always been the argumentative, sassy, independent women who does not need a man because we can basically do everything ourselves.