Introduction
In this book, Melody Beattie, the author gives an overall picture of codependency as it relates to relationship with others as their sole source of value and identity. She goes into detail on how a codependent is a person who believes that their happiness is derived from other people or one particular person. This eventually leads to obsessing or controlling the behavior of the person that is believed to be making them happy. Sadly, this can result in relationships with drug and alcohol lovers. The author also shares many of the Twelve-Step Al-Anon program objectives as it relates to recovery.
Chapter three spoke to me the most. I like how the author detailed her definition of codependency. She states that there are many definitions and all are valid. She then provides her definition. “A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior” according to Beattie. She goes on to say that the …show more content…
With that and to avoid enabling, Beattie highlights how codependents are “care-takers” and “rescuers” in the process of recovery. They are rescue, then persecute, and eventually end up a victim. This information is vital as it helps the therapist to gain a full picture of the problem or the situation to be addressed during treatment. The client needs to be aware that the help that is being provided to the addict just may fall on death ears. It can result in the client becoming an enabler or even causing the client to feel unaccomplished. I really like how the author spells out that “Codependents need boundaries”. She feels as though that we need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people. This book would be extremely important for school counselors to use during Drug Free Week: Red Ribbon
In this book, Melody Beattie, the author gives an overall picture of codependency as it relates to relationship with others as their sole source of value and identity. She goes into detail on how a codependent is a person who believes that their happiness is derived from other people or one particular person. This eventually leads to obsessing or controlling the behavior of the person that is believed to be making them happy. Sadly, this can result in relationships with drug and alcohol lovers. The author also shares many of the Twelve-Step Al-Anon program objectives as it relates to recovery.
Chapter three spoke to me the most. I like how the author detailed her definition of codependency. She states that there are many definitions and all are valid. She then provides her definition. “A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior” according to Beattie. She goes on to say that the …show more content…
With that and to avoid enabling, Beattie highlights how codependents are “care-takers” and “rescuers” in the process of recovery. They are rescue, then persecute, and eventually end up a victim. This information is vital as it helps the therapist to gain a full picture of the problem or the situation to be addressed during treatment. The client needs to be aware that the help that is being provided to the addict just may fall on death ears. It can result in the client becoming an enabler or even causing the client to feel unaccomplished. I really like how the author spells out that “Codependents need boundaries”. She feels as though that we need to set limits on what we shall do to and for people. This book would be extremely important for school counselors to use during Drug Free Week: Red Ribbon