Understanding the Roles Lay Counseling
It is very important to understand lay counseling. We must be good counselors in order to help people in the areas that they need help in. We also, must practice good skills when trying to counsel. Not everyone can be a good counselor simply because there are many rules to being a counselor. One of the things to become a good counselor is to learn to listen. You must listen to all that is being said. You must conduct yourself to listening even if you believe it to be boring. Anxiety can contribute to not being a good listener. Anxiety is very powerful and can have you full of fear and you don’t even know it. Anxiety can hinder your ability to focus on what is really being said. You can think you …show more content…
The minister finds out where the person is at, at this moment and communicates through voice and body language. In communicating genuine respect the minister’s respect for the other person is communicated by the treatment of the other as someone of worth who has the potential for growth. It also gives that person the ability to make responsible decisions.
In concreteness, the minister helps the person to find out exactly what they mean if they say they have been upset. It helps them to understand exactly what upset means. Concreteness also applies to the minister and the ministers own verbal expression. Genuineness refers to how we are in touch with our own feelings at any given time and our motivations for doing what we are doing. Appropriate self-disclosure is one’s willingness to be known as a human being to another person. We have the ability to communicate ourselves to others in appropriate …show more content…
Many people have trouble focusing on what someone is saying especially if they speak for longer than a minute or so. It is easy for our attention to drift to something else that we might find more interesting. If that’s the case, try to pick up a few key points in the conversation. After they finish talking, let them know that you heard them by mentioning the key points you heard them say and ask them to clarify anything that you did not understand. You will be forgiven for not being able to follow the whole conversation if the person talking believes that you made an honest effort.
Practice active listening. Most people are thinking of how they are going to reply when someone is talking. Instead of doing that, try to focus completely on what the person is saying. Pretend that you will be tested on how much of what they were saying you heard and understood. A good exercise to practice is to sit down with a family member or a good friend and practice simply giving feedback to them of what you heard them say. You will notice that it gets much easier to focus on their words when you aren’t worrying about how you will respond. Develop curiosity, an open mind, and a desire for continuous
It is very important to understand lay counseling. We must be good counselors in order to help people in the areas that they need help in. We also, must practice good skills when trying to counsel. Not everyone can be a good counselor simply because there are many rules to being a counselor. One of the things to become a good counselor is to learn to listen. You must listen to all that is being said. You must conduct yourself to listening even if you believe it to be boring. Anxiety can contribute to not being a good listener. Anxiety is very powerful and can have you full of fear and you don’t even know it. Anxiety can hinder your ability to focus on what is really being said. You can think you …show more content…
The minister finds out where the person is at, at this moment and communicates through voice and body language. In communicating genuine respect the minister’s respect for the other person is communicated by the treatment of the other as someone of worth who has the potential for growth. It also gives that person the ability to make responsible decisions.
In concreteness, the minister helps the person to find out exactly what they mean if they say they have been upset. It helps them to understand exactly what upset means. Concreteness also applies to the minister and the ministers own verbal expression. Genuineness refers to how we are in touch with our own feelings at any given time and our motivations for doing what we are doing. Appropriate self-disclosure is one’s willingness to be known as a human being to another person. We have the ability to communicate ourselves to others in appropriate …show more content…
Many people have trouble focusing on what someone is saying especially if they speak for longer than a minute or so. It is easy for our attention to drift to something else that we might find more interesting. If that’s the case, try to pick up a few key points in the conversation. After they finish talking, let them know that you heard them by mentioning the key points you heard them say and ask them to clarify anything that you did not understand. You will be forgiven for not being able to follow the whole conversation if the person talking believes that you made an honest effort.
Practice active listening. Most people are thinking of how they are going to reply when someone is talking. Instead of doing that, try to focus completely on what the person is saying. Pretend that you will be tested on how much of what they were saying you heard and understood. A good exercise to practice is to sit down with a family member or a good friend and practice simply giving feedback to them of what you heard them say. You will notice that it gets much easier to focus on their words when you aren’t worrying about how you will respond. Develop curiosity, an open mind, and a desire for continuous