Gottman Video Summary

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1. Personally, the most important attributes to a successful marriage is understanding and accepting each other goals, beliefs, and differences. This is the most important attribute because both party can respect and accommodate for each other.

2. The two video were intriguing. The principles and the adjustments introduced in the Gottman videos could be applied in strengthening relationships with friends, families, and acquaintances. In addition, the two Gottman Institute videos could identified working or failing relationship. For example, “Ida B. Wells moved to Chicago and married Ferdinand Barnett, she was thirty-two and her antilynching campaign was in full swing”(p.73). To put is simply, Wells was not the typical married women: she had

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