This content of this paper is a brief summary of the concepts and principles stated by Gottman from his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (citation) when they are explained with examples of two couples from the movie Knocked Up(CITATION). Allison and Ben as well as Debbie and Pete are two couples in the movie who both have many positive and negative ways of handling their marriage. Both have many positive and negative ways they influence each other. They both have many problems. And they both have in some form or another a shared meaning.
As Allison and Ben’s relationship grows it seems as though Debbie and Pete’s relationship slowly diminishes. At first, before having spent more time with each other, Allison and Ben had …show more content…
When Ben talks to Pete in private, Pete seems to always look at the world in a depressing way, including his own relationship and sees himself as suffocating in his family life. Whereas Debbie feels upset, suspicious of everything, especially with Pete. However, when Debbie and Pete are both committing equally at the same time, it seems as though they influence each other in a positive way such as when taking care of the children or talking about positive things they both share interest …show more content…
Pete and Debbie’s personality have a tendency to clash and not mesh, causing an opening for arguments, fights, etc. Pete has a tendency to be humorous about many things including the things Debbie takes seriously and Debbie has a tendency to criticize and contempt Pete right off on the set up of a discussion. They let the four horsemen enter, flooding occurs, their repair attempts gradually stop working. The two also start living parallel lives in the sense, Pete goes off to fantasy baseball and Debbie goes off to the club to dance. It appears Pete and Debbie’s marriage involves all of the key problems Gottman points out in his book and although the movie ended with the two still happily married, Pete’s only reassurance was realizing how much Debbie loves him. However, this does not fix the problem of the two personalities clashing instead of meshing, nor does this fix how they start their
As Allison and Ben’s relationship grows it seems as though Debbie and Pete’s relationship slowly diminishes. At first, before having spent more time with each other, Allison and Ben had …show more content…
When Ben talks to Pete in private, Pete seems to always look at the world in a depressing way, including his own relationship and sees himself as suffocating in his family life. Whereas Debbie feels upset, suspicious of everything, especially with Pete. However, when Debbie and Pete are both committing equally at the same time, it seems as though they influence each other in a positive way such as when taking care of the children or talking about positive things they both share interest …show more content…
Pete and Debbie’s personality have a tendency to clash and not mesh, causing an opening for arguments, fights, etc. Pete has a tendency to be humorous about many things including the things Debbie takes seriously and Debbie has a tendency to criticize and contempt Pete right off on the set up of a discussion. They let the four horsemen enter, flooding occurs, their repair attempts gradually stop working. The two also start living parallel lives in the sense, Pete goes off to fantasy baseball and Debbie goes off to the club to dance. It appears Pete and Debbie’s marriage involves all of the key problems Gottman points out in his book and although the movie ended with the two still happily married, Pete’s only reassurance was realizing how much Debbie loves him. However, this does not fix the problem of the two personalities clashing instead of meshing, nor does this fix how they start their