Well this has taken a long time. I have been talking about my life but not really being completely honest. And it not cause I wanted to be, but because I wanted to be clear on what I wanted to say.
So here goes.
In January this year (2015), I decided it was time that I was honest with myself and the people who loved me. I am same-sex attracted.
The first question that people normally say here is, “don 't you mean you 're gay”. The reason why I don 't just say that is because there is a huge stereotype that normally comes with being gay and my story and life is very unique, so I 'm not comfortable with that label. But if it helps you, you can call me gay. Also I 'm on a journey, it 's not a closed book and so using the words same-sex attracted …show more content…
I stayed silent and prayed and hoped that it would go away.
I wanted to fall in love sexually with a girl, but I couldn 't. I like them as friends and a few girls ticked all my boxes, but I wasn 't attracted to them. Being attracted to guys however felt easy and natural.
So was I going to hell? My religious upbringing certainly made be believe I had two options, be celibate or become straight.
Until about 5 months ago, this is what I believed. However something did not fit. I didn 't choose to be attracted to men. It would make life a whole lot easier if I could love and be turned on by a woman, but that 's not how it works. If you are a straight person reading this, how much therapy would it take for you to be attracted to the same-sex? It 's the same for me. Therapy cannot change me. God can change me, I totally believe that. But every time a ministry time is offered and every counsellor I have been to see, I have asked to change but it has not happened.
Ok! So let 's just jump back a wee bit.
Was I born gay?
I 'm not sure. I don 't think so. I do know I was born a man. I guess the rest is up to …show more content…
While I was here I wanted to find a course to make me straight. Instead I found a number of gay Christian’s and pastors who had changed their views towards same-sex relationships. I didn 't go looking for them. One of my best friend’s dad is a pastor who has a gay couple in his congregation and he chatted with me about my struggle. All these gay men and woman bear the fruit of a true Christian. Some take a conservative view and others take a liberal view, but they are Christians and loved God and others.
I also found someone who I fell in love with. While he didn 't feel the same way, this relationship was the closest to intimacy I had ever felt. We were best friends and we did everything together. Tragically it ended and it wasn 't the prettiest. But it was this ending which caused me to start this coming out process.
I have now accepted who I am. Right now I am attracted to men, not women. And that 's ok.
Even if you take the conservative viewpoint on this issue, the face I am attracted to the same-sex does not make me a sinner. It 's attraction what I do with that attraction.
Real intimacy (non-physical and physical) is designed for you to share with only a few people, and sex ideally for one committed, permanent
So here goes.
In January this year (2015), I decided it was time that I was honest with myself and the people who loved me. I am same-sex attracted.
The first question that people normally say here is, “don 't you mean you 're gay”. The reason why I don 't just say that is because there is a huge stereotype that normally comes with being gay and my story and life is very unique, so I 'm not comfortable with that label. But if it helps you, you can call me gay. Also I 'm on a journey, it 's not a closed book and so using the words same-sex attracted …show more content…
I stayed silent and prayed and hoped that it would go away.
I wanted to fall in love sexually with a girl, but I couldn 't. I like them as friends and a few girls ticked all my boxes, but I wasn 't attracted to them. Being attracted to guys however felt easy and natural.
So was I going to hell? My religious upbringing certainly made be believe I had two options, be celibate or become straight.
Until about 5 months ago, this is what I believed. However something did not fit. I didn 't choose to be attracted to men. It would make life a whole lot easier if I could love and be turned on by a woman, but that 's not how it works. If you are a straight person reading this, how much therapy would it take for you to be attracted to the same-sex? It 's the same for me. Therapy cannot change me. God can change me, I totally believe that. But every time a ministry time is offered and every counsellor I have been to see, I have asked to change but it has not happened.
Ok! So let 's just jump back a wee bit.
Was I born gay?
I 'm not sure. I don 't think so. I do know I was born a man. I guess the rest is up to …show more content…
While I was here I wanted to find a course to make me straight. Instead I found a number of gay Christian’s and pastors who had changed their views towards same-sex relationships. I didn 't go looking for them. One of my best friend’s dad is a pastor who has a gay couple in his congregation and he chatted with me about my struggle. All these gay men and woman bear the fruit of a true Christian. Some take a conservative view and others take a liberal view, but they are Christians and loved God and others.
I also found someone who I fell in love with. While he didn 't feel the same way, this relationship was the closest to intimacy I had ever felt. We were best friends and we did everything together. Tragically it ended and it wasn 't the prettiest. But it was this ending which caused me to start this coming out process.
I have now accepted who I am. Right now I am attracted to men, not women. And that 's ok.
Even if you take the conservative viewpoint on this issue, the face I am attracted to the same-sex does not make me a sinner. It 's attraction what I do with that attraction.
Real intimacy (non-physical and physical) is designed for you to share with only a few people, and sex ideally for one committed, permanent