“Domestic Violence: A pattern of coercive and controlling behaviors and tactics by one person to gain power and control over a partne.”(Halket 29:35) “In 2000 1,247 women and 440 men were killed by an intimate partner.”(Amercian Bar 1)
Popular R&B singer Jazmin Sullivan has a song called, “Call Me Guilty.” In the song she phones her mother to let her know that she is going to kill her abusive spouse. A line that particularly stands out to me is, “I suppose that I could leave, knowing I can’t leave.” When I hear her sing that part I ask myself, why not just leave? Why risk going to prison for murder? Just leave and never look back! Seems like a no brainer right?
“It is estimated that 4.8 million women experience an incident of rape or …show more content…
If I were one to gamble I would put my money on fear being the biggest barrier that women face when deciding to stay of go. According to Halket,Gormely, Mello, Rosenthal and Mirkin, “Women are 75% more likely to be murdered once they leave the relationship and it can take a woman on average, five to seven times to successfully leave; each attempt is more dangerous.”(Qtd.in 29:35)The National Domestic Violence Hotline says, “Leaving is often the most dangerous time for a vitcim of abuse, because abuse is about power and control. When a victim leaves, they are taking control and threatening the abusive partner’s power.”(NDVH) Another fear a woman being abused might have is economic dependacy. “With little money, lack of affordable housing, and long waiting lists for transtional living placements, many women find themselves homeless upon leaving an abusive partner.”(Qtd. in Halket, Gormely, Mello, Rosenthal and Mirkin 29:36) According to Krim K. Lacy’s “When is is enough to leave?” Vittims of abuse may return to[stay in] the relationship because they perceive their alternatives with the realtionship as more rewarding and less costly than alternatives outside the relationship”(Qtd.in Lacey) They have no help from family and friends because they isolate themselves from people who might have a opinion on the way they are living. Abused women might fear for their children. Will they be safer with just her? Can she provide for them? How will their lives be affected? She probably fears that she will never find a healthy relationship or that no one else will want her. Those fears and any other that may arise, are ways the abuser continues to have a control. They do not deserve that
Popular R&B singer Jazmin Sullivan has a song called, “Call Me Guilty.” In the song she phones her mother to let her know that she is going to kill her abusive spouse. A line that particularly stands out to me is, “I suppose that I could leave, knowing I can’t leave.” When I hear her sing that part I ask myself, why not just leave? Why risk going to prison for murder? Just leave and never look back! Seems like a no brainer right?
“It is estimated that 4.8 million women experience an incident of rape or …show more content…
If I were one to gamble I would put my money on fear being the biggest barrier that women face when deciding to stay of go. According to Halket,Gormely, Mello, Rosenthal and Mirkin, “Women are 75% more likely to be murdered once they leave the relationship and it can take a woman on average, five to seven times to successfully leave; each attempt is more dangerous.”(Qtd.in 29:35)The National Domestic Violence Hotline says, “Leaving is often the most dangerous time for a vitcim of abuse, because abuse is about power and control. When a victim leaves, they are taking control and threatening the abusive partner’s power.”(NDVH) Another fear a woman being abused might have is economic dependacy. “With little money, lack of affordable housing, and long waiting lists for transtional living placements, many women find themselves homeless upon leaving an abusive partner.”(Qtd. in Halket, Gormely, Mello, Rosenthal and Mirkin 29:36) According to Krim K. Lacy’s “When is is enough to leave?” Vittims of abuse may return to[stay in] the relationship because they perceive their alternatives with the realtionship as more rewarding and less costly than alternatives outside the relationship”(Qtd.in Lacey) They have no help from family and friends because they isolate themselves from people who might have a opinion on the way they are living. Abused women might fear for their children. Will they be safer with just her? Can she provide for them? How will their lives be affected? She probably fears that she will never find a healthy relationship or that no one else will want her. Those fears and any other that may arise, are ways the abuser continues to have a control. They do not deserve that