Personal Narrative Essay: Just Leave

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Beverly Gooden once said, “If I had the ability to go back in time and change a day in my life I would change the day my significant other laid his hands on me.” Beverly Gooden endured a great deal of abuse during the course of this relationship and more often than not, she would ask herself why she stayed and why was it so hard for her to leave. It is easy for people to say to a person that is a domestic violence relationship “just leave” however, those people cannot fathom the type of strong hold an abuser has over the person they are abusing. Just leave is not as easy a people make it sound.
Domestic violence is violent behavior that happens in a relationship or inside the home of a family. Domestic Violence happens a lot in our society.
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His wife Vanarrah Riggs was criticizing richards choreography. Richard got angry, his wife jumped out the moving vehicle she was scared he was going to get violent according to reports. Richard jumped from the car as well. A witness reported “ he saw the car hit a telephone pole and no one was in the car.” Other witnesses saw Richard grab his wife, put her in a headlock and then drug her back to the car. His wife reported “that he only grabbed her arm”, Richard said “he never touched her.” He was arrested and hour later just a couple miles from the scene. Richard has been charged for domestic abuse and holding her against her …show more content…
The first reason would be “Dealing with the reality of the situation”. With that being said that means the victim is no longer accepting the blame of their abusers behavior anymore. The victim is regaining their self-esteem and realizing that she deserves better. Secondly we have “Allowing help from friends and family.” Support is important, you can find support from family, friends, friends of the family, praying or even a Domestic Violence organization or group. Another reason women would leave is because children are involved. As a mother and having daughters, you dont wants your daughters thinking abuse is okay. Also, as a mother and having sons you don’t want them to think that it’s okay to abuse women or even to be an abuser. Eventually, the abuser will start to turn their anger towards the children but not always. Most importantly too much energy is wasted. Eventually the women comes to her breaking point from being overwhelmed with fighting and arguing. Loss of sleep, fears of dying, anxiety issues and eventually she will have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It also damages your spirit and sometimes leaves you

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