Holli was Sexually Abused
Holli had always been outgoing, never showed anything was wrong, but never loved having a boyfriend. While sitting in a church group circle, during her junior year, she told us that as freshmen she had been sexually abused.
All teenagers who are scared to love were usually sexually abused. Love is a common thing to be scared of growing up, but for some it’s even harder. “She is never there for you because she does not know how to be close, how to trust, how to belong, how to love and receive love”(Todorova). A mindset of a sexual abuse survivor is that no one wants them, and they are not enough for anyone. They are scared to love because the fear of being abused again will always be there, the pain will always hunt …show more content…
She had always been admired by guys anywhere she went throughout high school. No one could ever figure out why she wasn't interested in them. Holli never felt the need to have a boyfriend or want to be around boys, but she did have a select few she could trust. Many people would ask her why don’t you date a nice boy, or is there something wrong with boys you would like to talk about? Her response was alway I just want to focus on school. She had tried a few time to have a boyfriend, but she would never let the guy touch her or hold her hand for too long. She seemed, after freshmen year especially, not ever want to be touched by anyone, boy or girl. Holli’s closest friends noticed the difference in her actions when she was in the presence of a particular guy, it was as if she was scared of him or didn’t like him for a unknown reason; but she would state i'm not enough and never will be wanted by him. She never wanted to disappoint anyone, she always felt the need to make everyone around her feel happy, even though everyone knew she wasn't joyful herself. If the people around her didn’t have what they needed or weren't satisfied with something she would blame herself for not making them feel appreciated, even if she had nothing to do with the reason as to why they felt that
Holli had always been outgoing, never showed anything was wrong, but never loved having a boyfriend. While sitting in a church group circle, during her junior year, she told us that as freshmen she had been sexually abused.
All teenagers who are scared to love were usually sexually abused. Love is a common thing to be scared of growing up, but for some it’s even harder. “She is never there for you because she does not know how to be close, how to trust, how to belong, how to love and receive love”(Todorova). A mindset of a sexual abuse survivor is that no one wants them, and they are not enough for anyone. They are scared to love because the fear of being abused again will always be there, the pain will always hunt …show more content…
She had always been admired by guys anywhere she went throughout high school. No one could ever figure out why she wasn't interested in them. Holli never felt the need to have a boyfriend or want to be around boys, but she did have a select few she could trust. Many people would ask her why don’t you date a nice boy, or is there something wrong with boys you would like to talk about? Her response was alway I just want to focus on school. She had tried a few time to have a boyfriend, but she would never let the guy touch her or hold her hand for too long. She seemed, after freshmen year especially, not ever want to be touched by anyone, boy or girl. Holli’s closest friends noticed the difference in her actions when she was in the presence of a particular guy, it was as if she was scared of him or didn’t like him for a unknown reason; but she would state i'm not enough and never will be wanted by him. She never wanted to disappoint anyone, she always felt the need to make everyone around her feel happy, even though everyone knew she wasn't joyful herself. If the people around her didn’t have what they needed or weren't satisfied with something she would blame herself for not making them feel appreciated, even if she had nothing to do with the reason as to why they felt that