Getting Started:
Couples counseling is different from the individual counseling, couples counseling is active, structured, and the time is around 10 to 12 sessions. The individual counseling is passive, slow, and it takes months. The individual therapy, the therapist is always on the side of the client, while the therapist in the couple therapy never takes a side. Individual therapy, the therapist has to feel connected with the client, but the couple therapist, the therapist has to be close enough to understand the couples otherwise he or she will take a side. In the couple therapy, the therapist needs to be aware that the problem is not just between the couples, but it could be related to the individual level like; social interaction, communication, …show more content…
Ask:
What problems are you currently experiencing that haven’t been addressed yet?
What would you like to work on today?
Help the couple to find the core themes in their argument (disagreement):
1- Trust vs. mistrust, what is standing on the way of trust?
• Be open to your partner’s opinion.
• Be open and honest to answer all your partner’s questions to rebuild the trust.
• When your partner feels that you are honest, the control will despaired because he or she will be less anxious.
2- Appreciation or reality vs. expectations.
• Express appreciation even you see that is normal and what the other partner is his or her duty.
• Do you think since the partner is doing these duties, so it is guaranteed?
• You both doing that because you love each other and you have a good friendship.
3- Respect vs. disrespect.
• When do you feel that your partner disrespect you?
• Do you see your partner is abusing the relationship verbally?
• What do you expect in the light of respect from your …show more content…
According to the REBT theory, the thoughts produce feelings, the feelings will produce actions, and these entire components make person dysfunction. The other three components are ABC, the A = active events, the B = beliefs or thoughts, and the C = consequences or how you felt or behaved in reaction to your beliefs about events. When we react in a dysfunctional way or disturbed way, it is because of irrational beliefs. The therapist can identify the dysfunction by listening carefully to the couple’s words of absolutist like; always, must, have to, and
Couples counseling is different from the individual counseling, couples counseling is active, structured, and the time is around 10 to 12 sessions. The individual counseling is passive, slow, and it takes months. The individual therapy, the therapist is always on the side of the client, while the therapist in the couple therapy never takes a side. Individual therapy, the therapist has to feel connected with the client, but the couple therapist, the therapist has to be close enough to understand the couples otherwise he or she will take a side. In the couple therapy, the therapist needs to be aware that the problem is not just between the couples, but it could be related to the individual level like; social interaction, communication, …show more content…
Ask:
What problems are you currently experiencing that haven’t been addressed yet?
What would you like to work on today?
Help the couple to find the core themes in their argument (disagreement):
1- Trust vs. mistrust, what is standing on the way of trust?
• Be open to your partner’s opinion.
• Be open and honest to answer all your partner’s questions to rebuild the trust.
• When your partner feels that you are honest, the control will despaired because he or she will be less anxious.
2- Appreciation or reality vs. expectations.
• Express appreciation even you see that is normal and what the other partner is his or her duty.
• Do you think since the partner is doing these duties, so it is guaranteed?
• You both doing that because you love each other and you have a good friendship.
3- Respect vs. disrespect.
• When do you feel that your partner disrespect you?
• Do you see your partner is abusing the relationship verbally?
• What do you expect in the light of respect from your …show more content…
According to the REBT theory, the thoughts produce feelings, the feelings will produce actions, and these entire components make person dysfunction. The other three components are ABC, the A = active events, the B = beliefs or thoughts, and the C = consequences or how you felt or behaved in reaction to your beliefs about events. When we react in a dysfunctional way or disturbed way, it is because of irrational beliefs. The therapist can identify the dysfunction by listening carefully to the couple’s words of absolutist like; always, must, have to, and