Disconfirming Messages

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Confirming and disconfirming messages are purposes of language that permit people definite acts of how we relate with others. Confirming messages are messages that offer a basic acknowledgement that the other person in an interaction is present, accepted and that the relationship is important. Disconfirming messages are the direct opposite of confirming messages. Disconfirming messages are when the other person in an interaction is disregarded or even ignored. I have often displayed these functions of language with my significant other. According to Bevan and Sole (2014), “Using confirming messages is associated with greater openness and essentially shows that you positively regard the other person (Dailey, 2006).” My husband often complains

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