Let’s face it, communication holds a great significant and value in life. Communication is everything. Men and women tend to communicate differently, which causes issues between the male and female bond. Deborah Tannen wrote an article called “Sex, Lies, and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other.” She talks about the difference in the chatty conversation women want and how verbal communication is not necessary for men. The bonding process is dissimilar for male and female. Tannen makes three valid points during the article: The difference in stance and standpoint during conversations, men do not need words to form a bond, and how a child is raised effects the social …show more content…
Women like face to face eye contact, their bodies facing each other as if they are opening themselves up to the other’s words. Eye connection is a sign of being an active listener. The listener of same sex conversations between women often through in the occasional “ok” and “mhm” to let the talking person know they have their attention. Females tend to sit straight up, or level their bodies during an all-girl discussion. Men on the other hand, tend to not need the eye to eye. During the research by Tannen, she wrote, “At every age, boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other” (405). Men do not need the face to face connection to feel the listener is paying attention. Often, in same sex male discussions they usually sit parallel to each other. A chat between a male and female can be misleading, in the eyes of the female. Since …show more content…
Men need to realize that women like detail and small talk. Women need to realize men do not like to talk about their day, past the highlights, and small talk is nonsense. A woman should know, when she is talking to a man, that males have different stance during conversation. Men give off the impression of not listening, but more so, they are listening. A husband should come to understand that his wife, also, needs him to be a conversational partner. Conversations and genders are much easier to understand and simpler, if we study the way children communicate with same sex gender. They way children interact with one another, carries over into adult hood, but with more in-depth topics. Understanding the needs of opposite genders during conversation would help out communication between male and female