Essay about Analysis Of The Book ' Melody Beattie '
1195 Words Dec 6th, 2016 5 Pages
In this book, Melody Beattie, the author gives an overall picture of codependency as it relates to relationship with others as their sole source of value and identity. She goes into detail on how a codependent is a person who believes that their happiness is derived from other people or one particular person. This eventually leads to obsessing or controlling the behavior of the person that is believed to be making them happy. Sadly, this can result in relationships with drug and alcohol lovers. The author also shares many of the Twelve-Step Al-Anon program objectives as it relates to recovery.
Chapter three spoke to me the most. I like how the author detailed her definition of codependency. She states that there are many definitions and all are valid. She then provides her definition. “A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior” according to Beattie. She goes on to say that the other person can be in the form of a child, adult, sibling, lover, friend, parent, etc. The can also be an alcoholic, drug addict, physical or mentally ill person, or a normal person who is occasionally has sad feelings. However, the problem does not resonant with the other person, it lies on the ourselves in the format that we have allowed other people’s behavior to affect us and the ways we try to affect them. This includes obsessing, controlling behaviors, anger, guilt, and…