What It Means To Be Daddy Fatherhood For Black Men Living Away From Children By Jennifer Hamer

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After reading Ms. Jennifer Hamer’s “What It Means to Be Daddy Fatherhood for Black Men Living Away from Their Children,” I knew this was the perfect novel to write a book review on. I can relate so much of my own life, being a father, to other father’s statements given in the story on a live-away father. Ms. Hamer breaks the book down in three different parts which are broken down even further into eight sections. The book describes the transition of fatherhood for black men during slavery years to the fatherhood in today’s world. Each parts describes the lifestyles of black fathers, how they are judged and what is expected of them, and what being an actual father means. Part one consist of, The World in Which Black Fathers Live, Slavery …show more content…
Next, Hamer describes the standards of fatherhood: Fathers are to provide legal and genetic endowment for their offspring. She explains how the child is to carry the father’s last name, take the father’s genetic features, and legal right to inheritance. Fathers should also provide sustenance to family members, protect their children from physical harm, interact with the daily care of their child, and help educate the child. Though these standards are common sense of how a father should abide by, some men chose to neglect their children leading to a bad reputation for all Black live-away fathers. Since then, black live-away fathers have had to fight against the criticism and stereotyping thrown at them. But today’s fathers are not the only ones who have left their children. Live-away fatherhood dates back to when Africans were only known as slaves. Fathers were sold away to other slave owners, …show more content…
We finally read the sections on what fathers say they do as dads, live-away but absent, and how there’s nothing like trying to be a father and trying to be a man. For me, this was the most interesting part of the book because we actually get to see things from a father’s perspective. We learn about the barriers to fatherhood, how spending time with their children is crucial, and how important emotional support towards the child is and enforcing discipline when the child got out of line. Also, you read about how the father plays a huge factor in being a role model for their child, how men are to mold boys into men and girls into ladies, and providing economic support. Later on in part three we hear from fathers who were not exactly prepared to become a father, how some were disengaged from fatherhood, or just lacked time and sources to visitation, eventually becoming more distant from the child. Other factors that made some live-away fathers more distant was the difficulties of balancing their life around multiple sets of children, the child’s mother being in an intimate relationship with another male or the father being involved in a new relationship himself. Research states that when a man remarries or enters a new relationship he may feel less obligated with children from a previous relationship. Becoming a father and changing your life to accommodate others was no easy task, some men were

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