Dysfunctional Families

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Although children in dysfunctional or divorced families can have advantages such as developing independency and learning responsibility, it is obvious that the negative effects from divorce outweigh the positive ones: generational repetition from inner wounds to parents and children, and the moral decay in our society. The seriousness of divorced was reveal in 2012, when there was a surprising rate of divorce in Belarus by reaching 68 percentages of divorce rate (“Worldwide Divorce Statistics”). People should be surprised with this result because this means that almost seven families from ten are separated and be broken families. One of the worst outcomes of divorce is that parents who decide to separate receive internal wound. They are emotionally …show more content…
Statistics shows that children from dysfunctional families are more to perform less in school than the ones from healthy family. A divorce hurts all the family members including the children. It is pitiful that very young children do not even understand what is happening, but feel the loss of one of the parents not being around. Therefore, most difficult thing for children will be the coping with reality of their parents’ divorce because of their limited cognitive abilities. Another negative effect that divorce has on children is that many changes come to children’s lives after divorcing. They usually move home and have to make new friends. It is very difficult for them to adapt to new environment when the shock of losing parents still disturbs them. Another result of losing parents is that most of them have low self-esteem because they think that they contributed to parents’ divorce. This concept is fixed in their mind and usually not removed unless professional counseling is …show more content…
According to the research, many social commentators argue that children perform best when raised in a home with married parents than when brought up by a single parent. However, unhappy, abusive, or unsupportive marriages are often more destructive to a child 's well-being than divorce. In fact, many children and adults, according to one study, perform better at school and at work once a dysfunctional marriage is dissolved. (Hetherington, "Dysfunctional Marriages Contribute to America 's Decline”). Public policies aimed at promoting marriage and discouraging divorce often fails to take these factors into account. Policy makers must acknowledge that preserving a marriage at all costs is not always the best solution to family problems and that children of divorce do not always exhibit problems later in life. Some people point out positive sides of divorce. People say that children get to develop their individuality and grow up in young ages. In fact, many children from divorced families become adult in young ages because they get to learn responsibilities. However, it is too harsh to children to suffer from all that pain to just be matured in young ages. s Ultimately, it is very evident that divorce should not be done. Although people’s situations are hard and difficult to

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