Theme Of Extremely Loud And Incredibly Close

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In the book Extremely Loud And Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer, there are many themes conveyed through conflicts of the book. One of the biggest themes are trauma and guilt. Foer uses the death of the protagonist, Oskar’s dad, as a way to send the message that everyone deals with death differently and the way people express their emotions may not make sense to others. Oskar’s dad played a very important role in the house. When his dad dies, his mom is left trying to put the pieces back together in order to provide comfort and an accommodatable life for Oskar. According to Dr. Kübler-Ross there are seven different stages of grief. Denial and isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. “In our bereavement, we spend different …show more content…
He is constantly coming up with what if solutions and inventions as a way to cope with the death of his dad and feel a bit closer to him. For an example he comes up with this idea of an ambulance that could flash warning signs rating how serious a person's condition is, a portable pocket, and a birdseed shirt that you could use to escape from danger. Oskar may not be your average kid but he sure is a very smart one. Oskar is aware that his inventing is too much when he states, “I want to stop inventing. If I could know how he died, exactly how he died, I wouldn’t have to invent him dying…There were so many different ways to die, and I just need to know which was his.” (257). Oskar strives to find the truth about his father’s death. When he begins his adventure across New York, over time he realises that no one has any of the answers he is looking for. In the process he does not give up. He is willing to sacrifice anything to find the truth even if it hurts him. Oskar does feel a bit guilty. On the worst day before the twin towers fell his dad called five times. Oskar was so in shock that he couldn't bring himself to pick up the phone. “He needed me, and I couldn’t pick up. I just couldn’t pick up. I just couldn’t. Are you there? He asked eleven times. I know, because I’ve counted. It’s one more than I can count on my fingers….Sometimes I think he knew I was there. Maybe he kept saying it to …show more content…
He was in the depression stage. Grandma didn't understand why after all these years he decided to show up. He was currently depressed and felt very guilty. A method of coping the guilt from abandoning his family was to write letters to his unborn child. For some reason he never sent the letters. When the grandma was pregnant with Oskar’s dad he left because he felt like he couldn’t love anyone ever again and he didn’t want to hurt anyone. Now that he has returned he feels guilty that he wasn't able to be there to comfort his child but he accepts the fact that he's gone. When he comes back, no one knows who he is except grandma. Grandma wants him to be known as the renter. She fears that he will hurt oskar, so she orders him to have no interaction with him. He is so curious that he disobeys grandma’s wishes in order to fulfill his desire to meet Oskar. Eventually Oskar figures out who he is and sees him as a heartless person. He is upset at the fact that he just left his father. Grandpa’s emotions are briefly brushed upon in the story, but they give great

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