The Rules of Attraction
PSYC16571GD-Principles of Psychology
Tianyun Li
991388815
In social psychology, attraction is a natural feeling that makes someone interested in another person by appealing to his or her desires and tastes. Attractiveness is the basis of all human relationships. When people say that they like or love someone, they are experiencing the attraction with another. There are few rules of attraction base on the psychology. At first, specific gender differences cause different preferences to pick a mate in relationship. In other words, male and female has different point of view about attraction. Also, non-evolutionary factors such as physical attractiveness and similarity are the way for people to get into a relationship …show more content…
There are a lot of factors, which make a person attract another and get into a relationship. Physical attractiveness is the first and most direct way people are attracted when the first time they meet another. Attractiveness certifies the quality of genes and someone’s beauty causes others to choose to know him or her better and then other factors will show up in later stages of relationships. The role of physical attractiveness is so strong. For example, Dr. Gordon Patzer who has spent lots time on physical attractiveness said, “Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented, kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts. Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help attractive people -- of the same and opposite sex -- because they want to be liked and accepted by good-looking people”. It shows that most people want to have relationship with beauty and they believe that physical attractiveness is also linked with nice things inside. Next, since physical attractiveness cannot keep a long-term relationship, similarity become more important to develop the relationship. As known as “birds of a feather, flocking together”, people always prefer to keep in touch with somebody who most likes them in some way. More common grounds such as hobby, habit or faith are discovered, more attraction will be released. People feel free and relax …show more content…
Everything has two or more sides and the results of a study may be different base on different situation but the researcher didn’t notice it. It will create a limitation of the theory by those missing possibility. For physical attractiveness, beauty is marked, as positive object that is able to have more attraction but it is a stereotype. There are a lot of examples about the difference of bad and good-looking people’s attraction but it doesn’t mean that ugly cannot spread its attraction as well as beauty. For example, in Dion, Berscheid, and Walster 1972 seminal article, they “asked participants to make judgments of faces that had been rated as low, medium, or high in attractiveness, most investigations of the beauty-is-good stereotype operationalize the variable of facial attractiveness as either high or low using a median split of the sample of faces”. The study cannot meet the issue of stereotype directional property in attractiveness-based stereotypes because it did not control the levels of attractiveness well. So, since there are too much people are identified between very attractive and very unattractive, the theory must think about more sufficient levels of attraction in the research. On the other hand, similarity has some limitations as well. There are few evidences of it. At first, Montoya and Horton (2004) note that similar negative characteristics do
PSYC16571GD-Principles of Psychology
Tianyun Li
991388815
In social psychology, attraction is a natural feeling that makes someone interested in another person by appealing to his or her desires and tastes. Attractiveness is the basis of all human relationships. When people say that they like or love someone, they are experiencing the attraction with another. There are few rules of attraction base on the psychology. At first, specific gender differences cause different preferences to pick a mate in relationship. In other words, male and female has different point of view about attraction. Also, non-evolutionary factors such as physical attractiveness and similarity are the way for people to get into a relationship …show more content…
There are a lot of factors, which make a person attract another and get into a relationship. Physical attractiveness is the first and most direct way people are attracted when the first time they meet another. Attractiveness certifies the quality of genes and someone’s beauty causes others to choose to know him or her better and then other factors will show up in later stages of relationships. The role of physical attractiveness is so strong. For example, Dr. Gordon Patzer who has spent lots time on physical attractiveness said, “Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented, kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts. Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help attractive people -- of the same and opposite sex -- because they want to be liked and accepted by good-looking people”. It shows that most people want to have relationship with beauty and they believe that physical attractiveness is also linked with nice things inside. Next, since physical attractiveness cannot keep a long-term relationship, similarity become more important to develop the relationship. As known as “birds of a feather, flocking together”, people always prefer to keep in touch with somebody who most likes them in some way. More common grounds such as hobby, habit or faith are discovered, more attraction will be released. People feel free and relax …show more content…
Everything has two or more sides and the results of a study may be different base on different situation but the researcher didn’t notice it. It will create a limitation of the theory by those missing possibility. For physical attractiveness, beauty is marked, as positive object that is able to have more attraction but it is a stereotype. There are a lot of examples about the difference of bad and good-looking people’s attraction but it doesn’t mean that ugly cannot spread its attraction as well as beauty. For example, in Dion, Berscheid, and Walster 1972 seminal article, they “asked participants to make judgments of faces that had been rated as low, medium, or high in attractiveness, most investigations of the beauty-is-good stereotype operationalize the variable of facial attractiveness as either high or low using a median split of the sample of faces”. The study cannot meet the issue of stereotype directional property in attractiveness-based stereotypes because it did not control the levels of attractiveness well. So, since there are too much people are identified between very attractive and very unattractive, the theory must think about more sufficient levels of attraction in the research. On the other hand, similarity has some limitations as well. There are few evidences of it. At first, Montoya and Horton (2004) note that similar negative characteristics do