The Pressure To Achieve The American Dream

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The Pressure to Succeed Everyone has different opinion regarding success, it is a reflection of where they came from and where they want to go. Many people leave their home country to have a better life. They want to obtain better a job to support their families and for their children to have a good education. There’s a lot of pressure being a child of immigrants. The parents work hard, so their children can have a chance to achieve the American Dream. They want their children to attend college, earn a degree, and obtain a job that will support them. In addition, Asian parents tend to be stricter on their children and really focus them on education. Even if parents immigrate to other countries they still carry their cultural beliefs with them. However, children adapt to American culture; they lose their values on education, don’t apply themselves to …show more content…
The daughter had to practice the piano every day for two hours. She found out that her piano teacher was deaf, so she used that as advantage to keep making mistakes while playing. She participated in a talent show and her mother invited all her close friends. She performed a piece called the “Pleading Child”, but only her deaf teacher applauded. Even after the daughter embarrassed her parents at the talent show the mother still expected her to practice. However, the daughter rebels by refusing to practice but it only causes them to argue. The daughter shouts a hateful comment to her mother: “I wish I’d never been born. I wish I were dead! Like them!” The daughter was referring to the twin baby girls, which the mother had abandoned them in China. The mother retreats and never mentions about the piano. The mother and daughter were separated by many factors, such as age, experience, ambition, and culture (“The Joy”). The mother tried to live her life through her daughter, but the daughter rebelled. However, she felt guilty that she

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