Social Psychology Of Relationships

Relationships are our social ties with other persons, ranging from casual acquaintance or passing friendships, to intense, long-term relationships such as marriages or lifetime friendships. Social psychology gives us the resources to try and explain theses relationship and evaluate the positive and negative effects of being in one. In order to evaluate a relationship we must look at both internal and external concepts that can be applied. In high school, a very complicated relationship started to arise during my junior year and lasted until we left for college. Being best friends for four years both of us tried to ignore how we started to feel in order to protect our friendship but from both influences from our friends and even ourselves we …show more content…
This concept reminds me of when I used to say “when we are good its good but when we are bad its bad” whenever we would get into a fight and my friends would tell me I should just break up with him. An example of when I did this was when we would be in school and he would come in late he would bring me a donut to whatever class I was in and I would think that this is good, he must’ve been thinking about me this morning and wanted to make me happy and I never looked to figure out if he really was thinking that or if his mom just got him donuts before he would leave for school. The negative outcomes in our relationship I would say were caused because of his friends or something to do with basketball was making him act a certain way. The self-serving bias applies to my relationship because no matter what the actual causes were I always saw that when we were in a good spot it was because of us and when we were in a bad spot it was because of other people or …show more content…
This information shows me that I shouldn’t be comparing my relationship with other people without making myself question everything that we have been through. I decided to examine this relationship from four years ago instead of my current relationship because first I don’t see the flaws in my current relationship that are so prominent in my old one and second, if they are there then I will need to find that out without thinking myself into the problems. Learning about how much the social aspect of my life can effect my thinking makes me realized I shouldn’t care as much but it’s normal to always be comparing the