If someone asked us what our parents have pass down to us, surely we would point out something that we have observed in our own parents behavior regularly such as primary socialization which include values, beliefs, norms or conflicts in life. Divorce is one of the traumatic situations that a child might experience in early life. From the child’s point view, divorce is a devastating experience that usually has life- long effects. If the child does not get the support he/she needs during this period he/she might develop some serious emotional and or physical difficulties in later life. So we need to take a careful look at the effects of divorce on the family structure. With a special emphasis on its long term consequences on children. How does
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For example it make them feel insecure during this process; because they do not understand what’s going on or what it’s going to happen. Some children will wonder who will take care of them, where his/her mother/ father is going to live. What school will him /her go? Or how about if the other parent will visit, call or spend some time with him/her? Those are some of the question children could ask and worry about. Children can feel abandoned, because during this process parents are too busy dealing with court or agreements. Similarly, they might think that their parents are separating because of something they did, they might feel guilty. As O’Connell points out Essentials of Sociology, “children feel abandonment worry who will take care of them”. Abandonment fears are the result from a loss in childhood, such as the loss of a parent through divorce, or being abandoned by the significant people in one’s life, but it can also result from inadequate physical or emotional care (O 'Connell, n.d.). Likewise, Giddens also clauses that “Separation or divorce weakens the connection between child and father, as well as friends and acquaintances”. (Anthony Giddens, 2015, p. 347) This means children can have issues resolving conflict and socializing. In the future they might experience difficulty trusting people, building intimate relationship and “worry about their own future loves and marriage; preoccupied with the survival of relationships” (O 'Connell, n.d.). Therefore these children are more likely to have a divorce in the
For example it make them feel insecure during this process; because they do not understand what’s going on or what it’s going to happen. Some children will wonder who will take care of them, where his/her mother/ father is going to live. What school will him /her go? Or how about if the other parent will visit, call or spend some time with him/her? Those are some of the question children could ask and worry about. Children can feel abandoned, because during this process parents are too busy dealing with court or agreements. Similarly, they might think that their parents are separating because of something they did, they might feel guilty. As O’Connell points out Essentials of Sociology, “children feel abandonment worry who will take care of them”. Abandonment fears are the result from a loss in childhood, such as the loss of a parent through divorce, or being abandoned by the significant people in one’s life, but it can also result from inadequate physical or emotional care (O 'Connell, n.d.). Likewise, Giddens also clauses that “Separation or divorce weakens the connection between child and father, as well as friends and acquaintances”. (Anthony Giddens, 2015, p. 347) This means children can have issues resolving conflict and socializing. In the future they might experience difficulty trusting people, building intimate relationship and “worry about their own future loves and marriage; preoccupied with the survival of relationships” (O 'Connell, n.d.). Therefore these children are more likely to have a divorce in the