When an innocent child observes domestic violence they become a prisoner in their own home. They begin to learn the business of abuse; resulting in damaging situations later in life. In order to stop the cycle of abuse our current law should be amended to mandate mental health services for all children who are involved in these disturbances.
Evolution of Domestic Violence laws
Lemon (1996) explains that thousands of years ago women have fallen victim to the abuse of a man; their ruler who used beatings as a form of punishment for crimes committed by women. Lemon wrote about the history of “The rule of thumb” which was an actual law that allowed men to whip their wives with a stick, based off the measurement of the man’s right thumb. Over time …show more content…
Allowing me to become the strong confident woman I am today. Without the fear, bruises, tears and heartache that I experienced and survived; I would not be here today. What started out as a first date ended with me being choked for a reason unknown to me in the front seat of his car. However, in true fashion of the cycle of abuse the very next day he had a dozen roses sent to my classroom. I sure was a lucky girl to deserve this attention, or so I thought. His love for me became his obsession and his hate for me became his passion. We married and produced three children who then became victims of his abuse as well. Often times I think about the twenty years of abuse I endured to see if I can single out a specific memory that impacted me the most. The incident that brings tears to my eyes was when my husband kicked me down the stairs three days after giving birth to our 2nd child. As I laid at the bottom of the stairs weeping in pain I looked up and saw our three year old son staring at me. At that single moment I felt more pain for what our son witnessed than the physical pain I felt. As my children grew older the abuse became more humiliating by involving them in his hate for me. Although, my husband was arrested and convicted seven times throughout our marriage he never spent a day in jail. It makes me angry to know that our …show more content…
(para.2). Unfortunately, I was also a child who witnessed my father abuse my mother for days in a row to the point of no return. There were several times in my childhood where I had to check to see if my mother was breathing as she was curled up in a ball in the corner covered in bruises. Seeing this as a child was my “norm” and I thought every family was just like mine. No wonder I grew up to fall in love with a man who treated me the exact same way my father treated my mother. I learned as a child how to cope with the abuse and learn to wait patiently for what’s known as the “honeymoon phase”. The “honeymoon” phase is an event experts refer to in the Cycle of abuse. Wither children see domestic abuse once or fifty times experts are noticing the long term effects children are faced with as an adult. For example, experts at Childhood Domestic Violence Association (2014) argue “Children of domestic violence are 3 times more likely to repeat the cycle in adulthood, as growing up with domestic violence is the most significant predictor of whether or not someone will be engaged in domestic violence later in life”.
Evolution of Domestic Violence laws
Lemon (1996) explains that thousands of years ago women have fallen victim to the abuse of a man; their ruler who used beatings as a form of punishment for crimes committed by women. Lemon wrote about the history of “The rule of thumb” which was an actual law that allowed men to whip their wives with a stick, based off the measurement of the man’s right thumb. Over time …show more content…
Allowing me to become the strong confident woman I am today. Without the fear, bruises, tears and heartache that I experienced and survived; I would not be here today. What started out as a first date ended with me being choked for a reason unknown to me in the front seat of his car. However, in true fashion of the cycle of abuse the very next day he had a dozen roses sent to my classroom. I sure was a lucky girl to deserve this attention, or so I thought. His love for me became his obsession and his hate for me became his passion. We married and produced three children who then became victims of his abuse as well. Often times I think about the twenty years of abuse I endured to see if I can single out a specific memory that impacted me the most. The incident that brings tears to my eyes was when my husband kicked me down the stairs three days after giving birth to our 2nd child. As I laid at the bottom of the stairs weeping in pain I looked up and saw our three year old son staring at me. At that single moment I felt more pain for what our son witnessed than the physical pain I felt. As my children grew older the abuse became more humiliating by involving them in his hate for me. Although, my husband was arrested and convicted seven times throughout our marriage he never spent a day in jail. It makes me angry to know that our …show more content…
(para.2). Unfortunately, I was also a child who witnessed my father abuse my mother for days in a row to the point of no return. There were several times in my childhood where I had to check to see if my mother was breathing as she was curled up in a ball in the corner covered in bruises. Seeing this as a child was my “norm” and I thought every family was just like mine. No wonder I grew up to fall in love with a man who treated me the exact same way my father treated my mother. I learned as a child how to cope with the abuse and learn to wait patiently for what’s known as the “honeymoon phase”. The “honeymoon” phase is an event experts refer to in the Cycle of abuse. Wither children see domestic abuse once or fifty times experts are noticing the long term effects children are faced with as an adult. For example, experts at Childhood Domestic Violence Association (2014) argue “Children of domestic violence are 3 times more likely to repeat the cycle in adulthood, as growing up with domestic violence is the most significant predictor of whether or not someone will be engaged in domestic violence later in life”.