Divorced Parents

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The increasing occurrence of divorce in the United States has become a major concern for social scientists who are finding a pattern between children of divorced and their adult relationships. Many researchers have begun to consider the consequences of the popularity of divorce for future generations. Divorce of parents does not only play a role during their child’s adolescent years, but can have consequences that carry into adulthood relationships. According to many psychological studies, such as one done by the Journal of the American Board of Family Medicine (2001) and Gumbiner (2011); children from divorced families have higher rates of behavioral and learning disorders, which can lead to problems in their own relationships in the future …show more content…
These children have been seen to have more aggressive, impulsive, and antisocial behaviors and more problems in their relationships with their mothers and fathers than children who came from intact two- parent households. (Kelly 1998) The main way children learn about relationships is by watching their parents interact. Therefore, if children see their parents communicate negativity, then they are more likely to communicate this way themselves. Children who grow up in divorced homes usually have less contact with the non-custodial parent and as time goes on the parent child-relationship seems to gradually deteriorate. This creates a break in the parental model that serves as the relationship template for all future relationships in life. Children of divorced parents often lack positive examples of communication which is key at most developmental stages of their life. Seeing how parents manage conflict also plays a big part in how a child can act as an adult in their own relationships. (Amato & DeBoer, 2001) How quick parents’ can get angry seems to have a particularly powerful influence on children’s own skills in dealing with anger towards others. Journal of the American Board of Family Medicine found that children who grow up in households in which their parents do not manage conflict or disagreement tend to follow in the …show more content…
If the child witnesses the breakdown of trust between their own parents, they are more likely to not trust their significant other. Many young adults from divorced families report a universal belief that couples do not have what it takes to overcome marital conflicts. They are also more prone to repeating their parents’ mistakes and believing their future relationships are likely to fail (e.g., Wallerstein & Lewis, 2004) The children of failed marriages have increased rates of infidelity, moodiness, excessive drinking, conflicts over money, jealousy, and drug use. Some have even conducted studies on how boys and girls from divorced households act differently than one another in their relationships. Daughters of divorced parents are more likely to divorce more than sons of divorced parents do. Studies show young women from divorced families will feel an increased need for love and attention, yet fear abandonment greatly. These women are likely to be vulnerable or even overwhelmed by anxiety when it comes time to make decisions about marriage. (Whitton, Rhodes, Stanley, Markman 2008) The risk of divorce in the first five years is seventy to seventy-six percent higher for the daughters of divorced parents than for daughters of intact marriages. (Amato 1997) On the other hand, boys from divorced homes tend to be both

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