Stages/ Tasks/ Attachments On October 15, 1994, DM and MM met the requirements on meeting stage two: Marriage: the joining of families (Wright & Leahey, 2013, p.100). They met one night at a bar where MM worked in the evenings selling roses. They dated for five years because she was afraid to marry. She had already been married two other times and ended in divorce. After the fifth year, DM proposed to MM and she finally accepted. During the adjustment face of marriage, they both kept a strong and healthy relationship with each other as well as with their extended families. They enjoyed their time as a couple for eight years before they decided to try to have kids. For one year they tried and were not able to conceive. They looked for an infertility
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DM is very kept to himself in reference sharing his feelings. This goes back to being raised in a Hispanic culture. A machismo personality will bottle his feelings before bothering his wife with his issues. MM stop trying to talk and express her concerns and worries because DM never offers solutions for her issues. So their line of communication is basically about the well-being of their children and any information about his parents. MM for years would be the one who would initiate conversations on how to deal with financial issues, family issues, or even his drinking. She feels the conversations would always turn into an argument so she stopped attempting. Verbal communication. MM is usually the one who talks and does the communication with their teachers at school. DM never has felt as educated as MM and feels embarrassed to be social. DM tries to share his views or concerns with sarcastic remarks which usually upsets MM because he can not just be straight forward. DM is always being reminded to watch his foul language around the children. DM uses his firm voice when getting mad at the children.They both carry cellular phones for communication between their family members and themselves if …show more content…
DM is the worst one of both parents to utilize his nonverbal skills. DM expresses his anger by slams doors and/or drawers. MM denies that DM has ever gotten physical with her or the children. MM states that when they were newly wedded she would cry a lot when his would get mad because she felt guilty him getting upset. As their marriage developed she learned to ignore his behaviors. So if they are upset with each other they can go for days not talking to each other. Circular communication. MM confronts DM on a daily basis in reference to his drinking. DM gets very aggravated which pushes him to go sit outside in his garage and drink more. When MM is feeling frustrated and unappreciative she starts arguing with DM about not spending enough time with GM and BM. MM feels that she needs to mention these particular issues every so often. She feels he is like a child himself. He does well for a while and then needs to be reminded. The only reason she confronts him about his drinking is because she is afraid he will loose his
DM is very kept to himself in reference sharing his feelings. This goes back to being raised in a Hispanic culture. A machismo personality will bottle his feelings before bothering his wife with his issues. MM stop trying to talk and express her concerns and worries because DM never offers solutions for her issues. So their line of communication is basically about the well-being of their children and any information about his parents. MM for years would be the one who would initiate conversations on how to deal with financial issues, family issues, or even his drinking. She feels the conversations would always turn into an argument so she stopped attempting. Verbal communication. MM is usually the one who talks and does the communication with their teachers at school. DM never has felt as educated as MM and feels embarrassed to be social. DM tries to share his views or concerns with sarcastic remarks which usually upsets MM because he can not just be straight forward. DM is always being reminded to watch his foul language around the children. DM uses his firm voice when getting mad at the children.They both carry cellular phones for communication between their family members and themselves if …show more content…
DM is the worst one of both parents to utilize his nonverbal skills. DM expresses his anger by slams doors and/or drawers. MM denies that DM has ever gotten physical with her or the children. MM states that when they were newly wedded she would cry a lot when his would get mad because she felt guilty him getting upset. As their marriage developed she learned to ignore his behaviors. So if they are upset with each other they can go for days not talking to each other. Circular communication. MM confronts DM on a daily basis in reference to his drinking. DM gets very aggravated which pushes him to go sit outside in his garage and drink more. When MM is feeling frustrated and unappreciative she starts arguing with DM about not spending enough time with GM and BM. MM feels that she needs to mention these particular issues every so often. She feels he is like a child himself. He does well for a while and then needs to be reminded. The only reason she confronts him about his drinking is because she is afraid he will loose his