Medialle College
Cohort 18B
MHC 634
August 4, 2014
Grief and Loss Paper
Abstract: This paper examines the role that various counseling skills, techniques and approach aid in the benefit of a client dealing with grief. Although grief is a universal phenomenon, it has not been adequately conceptualized. There are so many different ways to approach a client dealing with grief. The real question is what approach is best based on the particular client and their needs, wants, exceptions and willingness to receive help. This counselor will use various scientific resources in order to come up with a treatment plan for a fictional client that is dealing with grief.
Introduction: Grief and loss is an aspect of life that …show more content…
During this stage a person is not ready to aspect their new reality of their loss. It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock (Axelrod, J. 2006). This is a temporary response. In most cases the person will eventually aspect their loss or at least acknowledges that there was a loss. The next stage is Anger. “As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry” (Axelrod, J. …show more content…
This is a very normal reaction for most people. The person may be having feelings of helplessness and vulnerability with the loss. During this is the stage the person may be questioning their choices and actions. Depression is the next stage and is very common in a person who is dealing with a loss. There are two different types of depression that are associated with the mourning process. The first reaction is the practical implications relating to the loss. Feelings of sadness and regret may bring on this type of depression (Axelrod, J. 2006). “We worry about the costs and burial. We worry that, in our grief, we have spent less time with others that depend on us. This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. We may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words. The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid our loved one farewell” (Axelrod, J.