Increase Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence also known as “EQ” is a very important skill that not everyone has had one that cannot be taught and learned easily. It is like a skill that we develop through our life that we never notice. EQ is the way we manage our emotions and how we communicate with others. Everyone has an EQ but some are higher than others how high is yours? For example, People who never laugh or make everything into a joke have a low EQ. And people with a strong EQ never have the motive to say “I told you so” after an argument, they instead keep to themselves and control their emotions.

EQ is always being compared to IQ, which is a cognitive intelligence. An IQ is a score we get on a test measuring how “book smart” we are. While EQ cannot be …show more content…
In the article “How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence ― 6 Essentials” Preston explain ways to increase our emotional intelligence he introduces abilities someone has to do to increase their EQ. His first way of increasing EQ is to reduce negative emotions so when we are put into a bad situation we should look at the bright side and not jump to conclusions. And by reducing the fear of rejection can help also an example, Preston states “I’m applying for three exciting positions. If one doesn’t pan out, there are two more I’m well qualified for.”(Preston). This is a better way of looking at it instead of “I’m applying for my dream job. I’ll be devastated If they don’t hire me.” (Preston). The first way of looking at it reduces the fear of rejection and would then increase EQ. The next way to increase EQ would be to manage our stress levels and not let it control us, Preston states “How we handle stressful situations can make the difference between being assertive versus reactive, and poised versus frazzled.”(Preston). The next way to increase EQ is the “The Ability to Be Assertive and Express Difficult Emotions When Necessary”. This is when we have to be ourselves and not let other people control us, and to speak our mind. An example is saying "I feel strongly that I should receive recognition from the company based on my contributions."(Preston). This is someone stating their mind on a subject and not afraid of a response they would get, but they also thought about what they were going to say and stated it in a proper way. The next way to increase our EQ is “The ability to bounce back from adversity”. This is when we are not doing so well at a certain activity or event and instead of being frustrated we look at the bright side and try to learn from the situation so the next time we are in this situation we can do better and hopefully