Being bullied can have an impact on their day to day existence. They can feel their level of power
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Peers learn a lot from each other and it can be that, what starts as one to one negative interaction, becomes â€˜gangâ€™ led, with many children all persecuting the one individual. This only emphasise the lack of power the victim feels he or she has. This in turn impacts on the victimâ€™s selfesteem, which then leads to depression and a reluctance to speak out.
Counselling a child or teenager that is a victim of bullying is often slow to begin with as the child may be reluctant to attend. It is not easy for a teenager to admit they are being bullied as they see this as a sign of weakness, the very thing they believe has led to the bullying in the first place. It will be a good starter point for a counsellor to look for the positive; focusing on the childâ€™s achievements or valuable character traits. To build up a childâ€™s self-esteem, they need to be encouraged to see the good in their life, however small the detail is. Things such as being a good sibling, being kind at home, sports ability or academic achievements all contribute to helping the child/teenager see they are so much more than they are being made to feel they are. It is suggested in research that bullying is now becoming more intelligent, with children being able to make comments about …show more content…
In short it suggests better and more mature understanding of the world makes bullies all the more powerful.
If I were to counsel a child or teenager who was a persistent bully, I would want to ascertain what made them feel it was appropriate to behave in that way. Did they enjoy it? Did they feel better by making someone else feel inadequate? Also, I would be trying to build a picture if the childâ€™s home life â€“ is there conflict, is anger very present, is â€˜mickey-takingâ€™ happening (and ignored) at home?
Most teenagers will argue that they donâ€™t mean any harm. In many cases bullying continues because they donâ€™t get the desired reaction from their victim so they escalate it. Teenagers are very often viewed as masters in deception, in the case of both the bully and the victim. They are able to project to the world what it wants the world to see. When bullies do this, it could be viewed as an admission of knowing what they are doing is wrong.
The recovery process could be long, but it is the job of the counsellor to approach both instances with a non-judgmental empathetic manner, however difficult that might be. In the end, you would strive for a happier existence for both