“Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.”
― P.J. O’Rourke Phycology separates parenting into four different typologies; authoritarian, permissive, neglectful, and authoritative, but what is the best way to parent? This question has been posed by every living generation today and it can be assumed it has probably been a reoccurring theme throughout history. It seems that every parent wants to prepare their child to be successful in society but what on earth does that mean? From the time, a parent finds out they are going to have a bundle of joy most parents have a vision of what they want their child’s future to look like, for some it is a career in the NHL and a Stanley cup to match, for some it is a law …show more content…
Authoritarian can be broken into various sub categories but the two that seem to have the highest following are Tiger and Helicopter. Tiger as coined by Amy Chua in her book, Battle Hyme of a Tiger Mom, is a form of parenting based on the cultural roots of the far east. In this form of parenting the parent-child relationship is one of leader and follower. It is expected that the child is to perform all tasks placed on him or her masterfully. A tiger parent has grand expectations for their child and shows little or no empathy for failures. In Tiger parenting a child could bring home an A on their report card and the parent would typically want the child to answer for not having an A+. Although this form of parenting seems harsh and some experts have criticized as emotionally abusive Amy Chua points out that children who experience this form of parenting have very high success rates and typically do not show higher levels of distain towards their parents in adult comparatively against western parenting models. David Brooks points out the flaws in tiger parenting in his response article “Amy Chua is A Wimp”, by explaining that by controlling your child’s life and not allowing basic social interaction you are leaving out a huge part of development. He does have a point, what good is a …show more content…
A tiger parent would blame the child for a less than satisfactory rank on a report card while a helicopter parent would blame the Teacher. It is the practice of bulldozing all obstacles in the way of a child while also dictating how the child’s time and future will be spent. This form of parenting was mostly used by the baby boomer generation in raising the millennial generation which we can see the repercussions of in the age group of 33- 20 year old’s today. This generation of helicopter children are far more educated than any that came before them, but are also known for having crippling anxiety, are categorized by employers as not being self-sufficient , and are shown to have the least satisfaction in their career choices, often times finishing college only to change career paths or pursue a completely different degree. This is my generation, and although I disagree with current news outlets painting a dark shadow on us as a disgrace. I must agree that as a whole we have some deep phycological complications that must be addressed. Being raised by the “me generation” of baby boomers they forced participation trophies on us while threatening our teachers into giving us undeserved grades. Phycologists that have studied the baby boomer generation generally come to the conclusion that they are self-centered and lacking empathy due to the wonderful economic
― P.J. O’Rourke Phycology separates parenting into four different typologies; authoritarian, permissive, neglectful, and authoritative, but what is the best way to parent? This question has been posed by every living generation today and it can be assumed it has probably been a reoccurring theme throughout history. It seems that every parent wants to prepare their child to be successful in society but what on earth does that mean? From the time, a parent finds out they are going to have a bundle of joy most parents have a vision of what they want their child’s future to look like, for some it is a career in the NHL and a Stanley cup to match, for some it is a law …show more content…
Authoritarian can be broken into various sub categories but the two that seem to have the highest following are Tiger and Helicopter. Tiger as coined by Amy Chua in her book, Battle Hyme of a Tiger Mom, is a form of parenting based on the cultural roots of the far east. In this form of parenting the parent-child relationship is one of leader and follower. It is expected that the child is to perform all tasks placed on him or her masterfully. A tiger parent has grand expectations for their child and shows little or no empathy for failures. In Tiger parenting a child could bring home an A on their report card and the parent would typically want the child to answer for not having an A+. Although this form of parenting seems harsh and some experts have criticized as emotionally abusive Amy Chua points out that children who experience this form of parenting have very high success rates and typically do not show higher levels of distain towards their parents in adult comparatively against western parenting models. David Brooks points out the flaws in tiger parenting in his response article “Amy Chua is A Wimp”, by explaining that by controlling your child’s life and not allowing basic social interaction you are leaving out a huge part of development. He does have a point, what good is a …show more content…
A tiger parent would blame the child for a less than satisfactory rank on a report card while a helicopter parent would blame the Teacher. It is the practice of bulldozing all obstacles in the way of a child while also dictating how the child’s time and future will be spent. This form of parenting was mostly used by the baby boomer generation in raising the millennial generation which we can see the repercussions of in the age group of 33- 20 year old’s today. This generation of helicopter children are far more educated than any that came before them, but are also known for having crippling anxiety, are categorized by employers as not being self-sufficient , and are shown to have the least satisfaction in their career choices, often times finishing college only to change career paths or pursue a completely different degree. This is my generation, and although I disagree with current news outlets painting a dark shadow on us as a disgrace. I must agree that as a whole we have some deep phycological complications that must be addressed. Being raised by the “me generation” of baby boomers they forced participation trophies on us while threatening our teachers into giving us undeserved grades. Phycologists that have studied the baby boomer generation generally come to the conclusion that they are self-centered and lacking empathy due to the wonderful economic