The meaning of relationships today has changed in the past few decades. Instead of marrying at a young age like they did before, most young people spend their time getting educated and getting different types of jobs before settling down. When they do settle down, people sought out to create an emotional attachment with a partner. The attachment theory has different styles that can help couples to create the love which relationships and marriage are based on today. It is necessary that partners learn their own and their partners' attachment styles in order to create a better understanding of each other through communication that maintain benefits to the relationship and the individuals in it. By knowing their individual attachment style it
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Research done by Nancy Collins and Stephen Read, found that secure people can get other people to talk about personal feelings. They also found that people with the anxious style are “... self-disclosing less often and rated their general level of communication as lower than others” (Levine and Heller 226). When a partner knows their significant others attachment style and how they communicate, they can understand why their partner is very open or why they are closed off. Research has shown that the best predictor future behavior is past behavior (Schindler, Fagundes, and Murdock). That partner can figure out the best way to communicate with their partner based on their partner’s attachment style and past behavior. Knowing the best way to communicate does not mean every conflict a couple has will be resolved instantly. The type of communication that is based on the framework of knowing an attachment style will provide the couple with the most efficient way to solve their …show more content…
Marriages today depend on the love and attraction the partners have to each other. Marriages before the 1960s were based on stereotypes brought on by society. The stereotype was that men were to to work while women were to become housewives. A study done in the mid 1960s showed two thirds of men said that they would not marry unless they were in love with the person. In the same study, a quarter of women said they wouldn’t marry unless they were in love with the person (Allegeir and Wiederman 26). At the time, men and women were not concerned about feelings but with the ability to create a family and become financially secure. When a reflection was asked about those marriages were asked, “...men and women who had been in male breadwinner marriages in the 1950s and 1960s told interviewers that the division of labor in which they’d hoped to find fulfillment had so divided their lives that intimacy had become difficult, if not impossible” (Coontz 250). This was not the case for all of the marriages during that time. Overtime, some couples developed feelings through the years they were together and they became content with their marriage. Those women who were content wanted their daughters to have a different life. In the 1962 Gallup poll women, “... wanted their daughters to postpone marriage and get more education” (Coontz 251). Political changes a few
Research done by Nancy Collins and Stephen Read, found that secure people can get other people to talk about personal feelings. They also found that people with the anxious style are “... self-disclosing less often and rated their general level of communication as lower than others” (Levine and Heller 226). When a partner knows their significant others attachment style and how they communicate, they can understand why their partner is very open or why they are closed off. Research has shown that the best predictor future behavior is past behavior (Schindler, Fagundes, and Murdock). That partner can figure out the best way to communicate with their partner based on their partner’s attachment style and past behavior. Knowing the best way to communicate does not mean every conflict a couple has will be resolved instantly. The type of communication that is based on the framework of knowing an attachment style will provide the couple with the most efficient way to solve their …show more content…
Marriages today depend on the love and attraction the partners have to each other. Marriages before the 1960s were based on stereotypes brought on by society. The stereotype was that men were to to work while women were to become housewives. A study done in the mid 1960s showed two thirds of men said that they would not marry unless they were in love with the person. In the same study, a quarter of women said they wouldn’t marry unless they were in love with the person (Allegeir and Wiederman 26). At the time, men and women were not concerned about feelings but with the ability to create a family and become financially secure. When a reflection was asked about those marriages were asked, “...men and women who had been in male breadwinner marriages in the 1950s and 1960s told interviewers that the division of labor in which they’d hoped to find fulfillment had so divided their lives that intimacy had become difficult, if not impossible” (Coontz 250). This was not the case for all of the marriages during that time. Overtime, some couples developed feelings through the years they were together and they became content with their marriage. Those women who were content wanted their daughters to have a different life. In the 1962 Gallup poll women, “... wanted their daughters to postpone marriage and get more education” (Coontz 251). Political changes a few