She was taught how to behave and how to conduct herself in society. Even a simple thing, like sending a cup of tea for her to the room, was supposed to be a breach of etiquette. As she tells, “sending up a cup of tea for a woman. Whoever heard of it?” Women, like children, were supposed to know their place. She writes, “As a child, they had told me I must be obedient and unquestioning. As a girl, they had told me I must be weak and submissive. Why? I had asked. Because you are a female. You must accept everything, even defeat with grace because you are a girl, they said. It is the only way, they said, for a female to live and survive. And I…….I had watched them and found it to be true.” For a woman intelligence was always a burden. They liked their women not to think, not to make their own identity. And when old uncles had wanted Saroja to learn music, Akka opposed tooth and
She was taught how to behave and how to conduct herself in society. Even a simple thing, like sending a cup of tea for her to the room, was supposed to be a breach of etiquette. As she tells, “sending up a cup of tea for a woman. Whoever heard of it?” Women, like children, were supposed to know their place. She writes, “As a child, they had told me I must be obedient and unquestioning. As a girl, they had told me I must be weak and submissive. Why? I had asked. Because you are a female. You must accept everything, even defeat with grace because you are a girl, they said. It is the only way, they said, for a female to live and survive. And I…….I had watched them and found it to be true.” For a woman intelligence was always a burden. They liked their women not to think, not to make their own identity. And when old uncles had wanted Saroja to learn music, Akka opposed tooth and