However, psychological research shows that early adulthood is a stage where a person begins to form his or her own identity as well as intimate, lifelong relationships with people outside of the immediate family. By enlisting as young adults, these men missed an extremely crucial developmental stage that caused them to often feel stuck between two generations, belonging to neither the older nor younger. Because each of these men was never able to form his own identity, he was forced to put his hope in the war alone. When Paul returns home for a few weeks of leave during the war, the feeling of not belonging hits him very hard. He quickly realizes that his family, specifically his mother, will never be able to fathom the cruelty of the war and therefore, distances himself from them. Paul explains the whole situation best when he says, “We are forlorn like children, and experienced like old men, we are crude and sorrowful and superficial—I believe we are lost” (123). These young men came in with eyes wide open ready to fight only for their many dreams to be shattered by the reality of
However, psychological research shows that early adulthood is a stage where a person begins to form his or her own identity as well as intimate, lifelong relationships with people outside of the immediate family. By enlisting as young adults, these men missed an extremely crucial developmental stage that caused them to often feel stuck between two generations, belonging to neither the older nor younger. Because each of these men was never able to form his own identity, he was forced to put his hope in the war alone. When Paul returns home for a few weeks of leave during the war, the feeling of not belonging hits him very hard. He quickly realizes that his family, specifically his mother, will never be able to fathom the cruelty of the war and therefore, distances himself from them. Paul explains the whole situation best when he says, “We are forlorn like children, and experienced like old men, we are crude and sorrowful and superficial—I believe we are lost” (123). These young men came in with eyes wide open ready to fight only for their many dreams to be shattered by the reality of