Lindo Jong had a different struggle in China but a similar lesson to teach her daughter, Waverly. Lindo was promised to a man before she could speak, and by the time she was 12 was living the life of a Chinese wife. In order to avoid shaming her parents, Lindo had to become silent and subservient with her new family. On her wedding day, however, she recognized her strength.
And then I realized it was the first time I could see the power of the wind…I was strong. I was pure. I had genuine thoughts inside that no one could see…I was like the wind. I made a promise to myself: I would always remember my parents' wishes, but I would never forget myself (53).
She trusted herself and was able to escape the life that she had been shackled to. She brought this determination with her and tried to instill it in Waverly. "I wanted everything for you to be better. I wanted you to have the best circumstances, the best character. I didn't want you to regret anything" (303).
"I think about our two faces. I think about my intentions. Which one is American? Which one is Chinese? Which one is better"(304)? Both Lindo and