“She decided to become a woman and though he still refused to be a man she decided it was all right” (lines 20-25). She decided that the changing was up to her. She did not have to wait for the man to give her permission to be what she wanted to be. The woman realized that she could depend on herself and did not need a man to reassure her of what she was doing.
Progression plays an important role in this poem. The woman starts out as a blade of grass, insignificant and simple. When she saw the man did not respond to this, she tried to be something more. Next, she tried to be a bird, happily dependent on him. Next, she tried being a spider, which is independent, aggressive, and predatory. Then she tried to be a book, a great resource. In her final attempt to get a response from him, she turned herself into a bulb, his vital life source. However she was a woman the whole time.
The author could have been using metaphors to show what she thought were the characteristics of men and women. The poem more likely shows the progression of women over time to find their place in society and the man’s struggle to deal with it. The woman in the poem was desperately trying to find her place of significance. She learned in the end, that being who she was in other people’s eyes was less important than being who she was in her own