What Is The Importance Of Female Relationships In A Thousand Splendid Suns

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The desire for social bonding is a natural instinct discovered in human beings. Particularly, female to female relationships are extremely important and valuable for development. Arguably, a female to female relationship is one of the strongest human bonds. Moreover, a positive female role model plays an important role in shaping a female’s perception on life. In Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns, he demonstrates the strength a female may develop through the bond to another female. Hosseini emphasizes the significance of a female relationship through the protagonists Mariam and Laila. During Laila’s childhood years, her mother fails to connect with her, resulting in her struggle growing into a young lady. Eventually, Laila and Mariam …show more content…
Hagar is remorseful that she is incapable of nurturing Dan. Growing up without a female relationship, Hagar learns from her father to despise the weak characteristics females portray. She is incapable of showing the motherly attribute of outwardly loving her brother. As a result, Hagar’s self-knowledge suffers; she unable to recognize the harm on her relationships that her destructive pride causes. On the other hand, Laila’s mother neglects her; she is preoccupied with memories of her sons. Laila experiences conflicting emotions after she witnesses her mother’s near suicide attempt: “She would never leave her mark on Mammy 's heart the way her brothers had, because Mammy 's heart was like a pallid beach where [her] footprints would forever wash away beneath the waves of sorrow that swelled and crashed” (Hosseini144). Laila is negatively affected by her mother’s neglect as she can never have a place in her mother’s heart due to her mother’s overwhelming grief. However, Laila and Mariam seek refuge with each other through fulfilling each other’s missing pieces. The two women grow accustomed to each other, performing daily household rituals together, and forming a …show more content…
However, if a daughter has no role model, she will be uninformed on the proper treatment for a child. Furthermore, Hagar grows up with an excessive amount of pride in her noble origin. She places an unnecessary amount of hope into her son John, believing he will continue on the tradition of the Currie pride. Hagar’s desire to rule John’s life leads to the loss of her son. The absence of a mother figure growing up, lead her father to dictate her life. As a result, Hagar tries to control her son’s life, following in her father’s controlling footsteps. When John tells his mother he is going to marry Arlene, his girlfriend, she objects to the idea of him marrying his true love. Hagar believes she will be unable “to hold up her head in town” (Laurence 199) if John marries Arlene. Once again, Hagar is merely focused on her own happiness rather than making sacrifices for her son’s happiness. Her incapability to recognize her stubborn behaviour is an indication of her lack of self-discovery. Moreover, a female is capable of learning proper motherly etiquette through the connection to other females. In desperate times, the action of a mother influences the daughter’s behaviour for similar circumstances. In A Thousand Splendid Sun, when Mariam recognizes desperation for food, she is willing to reach out to her unforgivable father for money. Mariam resembles a true mother figure; she is willing to put

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