The Importance Of Affair-Proof Marriage

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Affair-Proof Marriages
Affair-proofing a marriage cannot be done if couples hide their heads in the sand. Some spouses believe that their spouse is the exception or “different”, and would never take part in an affair despite unmet needs may receive a devastating shock one day (Harley, 2011, p. 20). The reality is that no marriage is beyond penetration (Shriver & Shriver, 2009, p. 101). According to Gary and Mona Shriver (2009), “The self-assurance that this is one area we could never fall into is a lie for every couple who believe it. Godly people sin. Godly people fall. Good marriages have problems (p. 101).” 1 Corinthians 10:12 states, “Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall (ESV).” It is important for all married couples to be on guard, recognize the danger of adultery, and be careful so that they do not fall into temptation. 1 Peter 5:8 warns people to be watchful because the devil prowls around as a roaring lion does seeking someone to
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Couples must first understand that they are vulnerable in order to recognize their need for protective measures (Shriver & Shriver, 2009, p. 201). Nancy Anderson (2004) discusses the concept of hedges in her book as a way to affair-proof marriage based on Mark 12:1. This verse states that a man planted a vineyard and set a hedge around it. One should think of their marriage in this way. The day a couple says “I do” they are essentially planting their vineyard (Anderson, 2004, p. 46). Anderson (2004) states, “A hedge makes the statement, “Private Property, No Trespassing.” The symbolic hedges around our marriages serve the same purposes. As a married couple, your goal as co-owners of your vineyard, is to keep the good things in and the bad things out (pp. 46-47).” When couples establish hedges they cultivate actions and attitudes to protect their marriages (Shriver & Shriver, 2009, p.

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