Jayanthi On Sex

Sex should be a natural and free act. The reality seems to be that even sex may be out of our control. Often sex and sexual situations are forceful, with extreme pressure to conform to the archetype. One can not blame Jayanthi or Solomon, or say that they have the freedom to say no. Jayanthi was in a dangerous situation, where saying no could dig her into a deeper hole, while undermining the identity she has. For Solomon, a similar pressure to prove his masculinity and sexuality but him in a position to agree to have sex with women. Sexuality is not a concept we typically think of as labeled, yet comments about promiscuity provides even stronger archetypes than gender and sexual identity. The good girl cannot have sex, the bad girl will have sex with anyone, the virgin is shamed in men and praised in women, the player scores many women. It goes far beyond Bell’s archetypes of the Sexual Woman, Relational Woman, and Desiring Women. Sexually-applied archetypes define sex and sexuality with very little room for control. It is undoubtedly alarming that something that seems so natural and unrestricted, could actually be an involuntary act. We often force ourselves deeper into restriction by uniting with others who share our identities. One would assume that by finding those with a …show more content…
Regardless, we are all tied down to archetypes, labels, norms, and stereotypes. Combinations of identities pave a specific path for our behaviors, traits, and interests. Viewing life in such a black and white way may make it seem like individuality is a sham. But individuality may still exist, since each combination of archetypes produces a variety of people. The world is still very diverse, as there are many cultures around the world. So whether we choose it or not, once we fall into a category its rules restrain us, leaving freedom in the hands of a