Coming from a small, broken home, Mary always knew she wanted to have a large family of her own. Having an emergency hysterectomy at the age of 27, three children were all that Mary could have, not fulfilling her dream of a great, overbearing family. All of her three girls coming from a previous marriage, adoption was the only option for Mary and her new husband. Now, one mother faces the horrors of attempted murder, mental disabilities and an agonizing lifetime commitment all because of international adoption.
The year was 2004 when Mary and her husband decided to adopt. She choose international adoption because the fear of a distant family member finding and taking away their adopted child. As Mary started the adoption process, she came to …show more content…
Bringing home three small children that did not speak English, in a country that they were told horror stories about, was the easiest part to deal with. Mary knew that there was something wrong with the two youngest boys. “They way they just acted and looked, was not normal,” Mary said. A year and one month went by and there was still no help for Mary and her young boys medically until the unthinkable happened. Mary told the story about how they were out at the pool in town and her youngest boy Kirill, literally tried to drown Dametri, the middle son. “I remember rushing over to them …show more content…
They are now 16, 17, and 19 years old. Mary’s oldest son Constantine is in the military, “He needs the structure, he needs someone to tell him what to do or he will crash. It hurts to have my son away, but addiction is him his blood, he needs to be watched. If he was still in Russia and never been adopted he would be locked up. Where he is from one percent own 99 percent of the money. He would have orphan stamped on his paperwork and never would have got a job.” Dmitry the middle child is still living at home. He has a lot of mental disabilities like fetal alcohol syndrome, disorganized schizophrenia, pragmatic language disorder on the autism spectrum, and scenery inauguration processing disorder, but Mary states he is harmless. “He has imaginary friends, but will never hurt anyone.” Kirill is in a group home with 5 staff in the home at all times while he is awake and no less than 3 when he is sleeping. After Mary found plans in Kirill’s room of him plotting out to kill her she had to get him out of the house. He was 13 at the time. “He will never come home again, we still visit him every weekend and holiday, but he is not allowed to come into our house. He has cost us more money we could ever imagine, jobs we will never get back and sanity we never knew we could lose. My heart breaks that I couldn’t help my son, but I would die if he killed one of my other
The year was 2004 when Mary and her husband decided to adopt. She choose international adoption because the fear of a distant family member finding and taking away their adopted child. As Mary started the adoption process, she came to …show more content…
Bringing home three small children that did not speak English, in a country that they were told horror stories about, was the easiest part to deal with. Mary knew that there was something wrong with the two youngest boys. “They way they just acted and looked, was not normal,” Mary said. A year and one month went by and there was still no help for Mary and her young boys medically until the unthinkable happened. Mary told the story about how they were out at the pool in town and her youngest boy Kirill, literally tried to drown Dametri, the middle son. “I remember rushing over to them …show more content…
They are now 16, 17, and 19 years old. Mary’s oldest son Constantine is in the military, “He needs the structure, he needs someone to tell him what to do or he will crash. It hurts to have my son away, but addiction is him his blood, he needs to be watched. If he was still in Russia and never been adopted he would be locked up. Where he is from one percent own 99 percent of the money. He would have orphan stamped on his paperwork and never would have got a job.” Dmitry the middle child is still living at home. He has a lot of mental disabilities like fetal alcohol syndrome, disorganized schizophrenia, pragmatic language disorder on the autism spectrum, and scenery inauguration processing disorder, but Mary states he is harmless. “He has imaginary friends, but will never hurt anyone.” Kirill is in a group home with 5 staff in the home at all times while he is awake and no less than 3 when he is sleeping. After Mary found plans in Kirill’s room of him plotting out to kill her she had to get him out of the house. He was 13 at the time. “He will never come home again, we still visit him every weekend and holiday, but he is not allowed to come into our house. He has cost us more money we could ever imagine, jobs we will never get back and sanity we never knew we could lose. My heart breaks that I couldn’t help my son, but I would die if he killed one of my other