CHAPTER 5 – JUNK JUDGMENTS
“Self-esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgments of others.”
— Oprah Winfrey, American TV personality
Judgments are a dime a dozen in life! Most of the time, you exercise judgments without even being cognizant about it. Try figuring out these following familiar statements; in all probability, you would find yourself unaware about their judgmental tones:
"How I wished I was not fat, dark, and ugly!"
"Everything seems very unfair!"
"She is so smart and beautiful. Why am I having a hard time matching her personal appeal?
"It is disheartening to know that they came out with the wrong decision in the end. They should have listened to me in the first place!"
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Perfectionists present themselves to society as perfect as they could be, and strive at all costs to deliver results as perfect as possible. While a perfect delivery might be good, going to the extremes to fulfill perfectionism is not. As they say, too much of everything is injurious.
In addition, perfectionism all boils down to ruining self-esteem. In her book, ‘Bird By Bird,’ Anne Lamott succinctly described perfectionism as the oppressor’s voice. It is the enemy of the people!
Perfectionism can truly paralyze you from your performances since you become very afraid that you might not live up to certain standards. Every detail would likely seem inferior to you. As a result, you tend to procrastinate while not getting your desired outputs and outcomes. Such will surely drown your self-esteem in the sea of redundant, if not, paralyzed actions.
Alternatively, if you force taking actions, you will only find yourself oftentimes unsatisfied with the results of your performances and accomplishments. In effect, your thoughts and feelings about yourself turn increasingly negative while your motivations of taking actions drop
“Self-esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgments of others.”
— Oprah Winfrey, American TV personality
Judgments are a dime a dozen in life! Most of the time, you exercise judgments without even being cognizant about it. Try figuring out these following familiar statements; in all probability, you would find yourself unaware about their judgmental tones:
"How I wished I was not fat, dark, and ugly!"
"Everything seems very unfair!"
"She is so smart and beautiful. Why am I having a hard time matching her personal appeal?
"It is disheartening to know that they came out with the wrong decision in the end. They should have listened to me in the first place!"
The boldface …show more content…
Perfectionists present themselves to society as perfect as they could be, and strive at all costs to deliver results as perfect as possible. While a perfect delivery might be good, going to the extremes to fulfill perfectionism is not. As they say, too much of everything is injurious.
In addition, perfectionism all boils down to ruining self-esteem. In her book, ‘Bird By Bird,’ Anne Lamott succinctly described perfectionism as the oppressor’s voice. It is the enemy of the people!
Perfectionism can truly paralyze you from your performances since you become very afraid that you might not live up to certain standards. Every detail would likely seem inferior to you. As a result, you tend to procrastinate while not getting your desired outputs and outcomes. Such will surely drown your self-esteem in the sea of redundant, if not, paralyzed actions.
Alternatively, if you force taking actions, you will only find yourself oftentimes unsatisfied with the results of your performances and accomplishments. In effect, your thoughts and feelings about yourself turn increasingly negative while your motivations of taking actions drop