Internalization Of Failure

Improved Essays
“I think marks do affect the way I feel about myself they can make me feel less confident and sometimes I’m quite self-conscious about my marks if they are bad. Then again when I get good marks I feel quite proud of myself and I enjoy the feeling, which sort of makes me want to get good marks more often.” (J)
“How a grade affects me varies on what grade I get. If I get good grades I feel pretty good about myself. But if I get bad grades, especially if I thought I did better, it makes me feel pretty sad and down about myself.” (G)
In these responses we see the clash between the ideal image and the narrative that is internalised. The academic mirror presents an image to us, just as the fragmented and uncoordinated infant sees a whole in the mirror,
…show more content…
Students set up to fail against unrealistic standards, then feeling a failure reflected in the mirror. Is it any wonder the result is to crumble or rebel? This potential internalisation of failure must surely be crushing for some and yet, they return to school day after day
My thoughts returned to Larry and our conversation outside the bookshop; I am deeply moved by the thought of Larry and boys like him.
I talked with my class yesterday regarding the nature of education and schools. The desks were all facing the front of the room and I asked why this might be the case? No one could answer me. This is a pre-tertiary class, bright young men on the verge of adulthood; intelligent and eager to move forward, winners in this game of school. As I looked over the class, it was in a sense looking back at my teaching career; there are boys in this class that I taught in Year 1 or 6, Middle School and now Year 11 and 12. There is a beauty to this and I must share it with them; the idea of a bigger picture, a sense of belonging to a larger whole resonates with me. And yet we are all unique within this whole.
I began to talk of the history of education and how schools were set up in a way to maximise the efficiency of transmission of information; usually borne

Related Documents

  • Improved Essays

    In recent years, ideas on how children should be raised have shifted within society. In his essay “Are Kids Too Coddled?” author Frank Bruni argues that parents have become overprotective, reducing children’s exposure to difficulties and, in turn, reducing the children’s preparedness for adult life. He supports a more rigorous education, and in particular the introduction of the Common Core, a federal curriculum that is more difficult than many local school programs. Bruni is correct in that children should be exposed to their raw environment so that they can learn and develop as mature, confident, and competitive individuals.…

    • 713 Words
    • 3 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Improved Essays

    The Other Moore Analysis

    • 726 Words
    • 3 Pages

    In the memoir, The Other Wes Moore, two people with similar histories are described, yet with different fates in the end. The author, Wes Moore states, “Do you think that we're products of our environments? I think so, or maybe products of our expectations.” Throughout the memoir and through personal experiences, no matter negative or positive, it is evident that expectations shape people's very character.…

    • 726 Words
    • 3 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Improved Essays

    A Lazy A Suzanne E. Fry writes “Some students feel that success is owed to them; after all, they did not spend thousand of dollars a year not to yield results”(Fry 10). In her article, she brings out her view that relaxing grades or the lower performance needed to achieve good grades, cause the quality of education to suffer and teaches student they don 't need to work hard to succeed are completely valid; it is seen in the way student pick classes today and their time spent studying. Suzanne E. Fry in the article, Grade Inflation argues that the inflation of grades going on in higher education is harmful to all involved. Fry points out that when A’s are easier to achieve students are taught that they don 't need to work hard. She shows that…

    • 891 Words
    • 4 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Superior Essays

    How public education cripples our kids, and why” that in today’s society, schools have trained the students mind to become slaves of society and its demands by sharing his personal experiences, becoming consumers, and the solution to schooling. In the beginning the “Against School” Gatto describes his own personal experience in the school, which included boredom. He describes himself sitting in a classroom and never paying attention due to the information that was being displayed to him. He wanted to learn, but was not attentive.…

    • 1277 Words
    • 6 Pages
    Superior Essays
  • Improved Essays

    Summary of SIB in College Population (article 1) The following article had one goal and that was to show how many college students do SIB and what specific patterns lead to the behavior. How the data was sampled was through a random generator that would select student ID’s and then email that particular student a sample of the survey. (Over 8300 students were sampled)…

    • 1655 Words
    • 7 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Improved Essays

    Can Failure Lead to Success? In the article “In Praise of the F Word” by Marry Sherry,Sherry argues for the need to be able to fail students. Sherry argues for the threat of failure as means of motivation for students. Sherry argues kids don’t value education as much as adults do and need motivation.…

    • 456 Words
    • 2 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Decent Essays

    “What do students lose by being perfect? Valuable failure”, by Holly Korbey is an article that illustrates the grade obsessed parenting style developed in the recent past. Holly Korbey believes that failure is a process leading up to success, contrary to parent beliefs. Today, kids’ minds are led to think that there is no coming back from…

    • 58 Words
    • 1 Pages
    Decent Essays
  • Improved Essays

    That stomach churning feeling of guilt for many, seems to appear as a small price to pay when completing an act of academic dishonesty. Colleen Wenke wrote an essay on cheating eighteen years ago called “Too Much Pressure”. Although, In the past fifty years, students who admit to having cheated has increased fifty to seventy percent(stanford.edu) Today, the number of students who cheat has risen because it is no longer seen as a large infringement on the school system that one should be punished for. Therefore, it is an easier way to receive the grade that one feels will lead them to ultimate success.…

    • 837 Words
    • 4 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Superior Essays

    Then “Whether you drink deeply, or only gargle is entirely up to you” meaning that if the student wants to succeed they will have to try harder than they were in high school to see the outcome of their deeds (Parsons). Finally, Professor Parsons implies their grades will reflect their lone input and work effort because there is no one else to blame here. His argument that teachers were the reason high schoolers were getting ahead is legitimate. According to a report published by Michigan University explaining Teacher Issues they state, “[t]eachers are the backbone of educations . . . they are the ones who are interacting with the students on a daily basis . . .”…

    • 1089 Words
    • 4 Pages
    Superior Essays
  • Great Essays

    Bob Heart Surgery

    • 1034 Words
    • 5 Pages

    A few years ago in a high school in London, England, there was a 15-year-old kid named Bob who was such a perfectionist that he needed to get perfect grades in school. Bob studied all the time, worked super hard in school, and had never missed a single point on a test, quiz, or assignment. He was literally that smart and perfect. Since all he did was school and school related things, it was a good thing that he really liked school, which is not the norm of many teenagers in today’s public school system.…

    • 1034 Words
    • 5 Pages
    Great Essays
  • Improved Essays

    9th Grade Research Paper

    • 677 Words
    • 3 Pages

    Although every grade level deems difficult, I believe that 9th grade is the hardest grade because of the grueling effects of low self-esteem, pressure and worry that every student must bear among the already heavy load of their school frets during freshman year. To begin with, low self-esteem can truly deprive a student’s drive to excel in the future. I think this because occasionally, when a student is held back a grade during their first year, they can suffer from a sort of mental inhibition, and feel as if they are an outcast stranded in a see of anonymous strangers. Therefore, that student could feel as if they are unwelcome and decide that it’s better off if they just drop out instead of dealing with the uncertainty of a different crowd.…

    • 677 Words
    • 3 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Superior Essays

    “This is ridiculous!” Tim exclaimed, looking at his bright computer screen, “my professor won’t change my 93.99% grade to a 94%.” Having a 4.0 all throughout his years at PSU, Tim, my sister’s boyfriend, was furious when he discovered that his A- in his physics course was going to lessen his chance of getting into the graduate school he was aiming for. To him, an A- equals failure, despite his countless other accomplishments. A perfectionist to the core, even 100% wasn’t good enough, seeing that the highest grade he had ever gotten on a test was 114%.…

    • 1265 Words
    • 6 Pages
    Superior Essays
  • Great Essays

    What They Never Told You About Mistakes Is perfection really obtainable? Can we reach this abstraction without first falling and lending ourselves into the hands of failure? Thomas takes the controversial, misinterpreted concept of mistakes and parallels it with a hope so empowering that it yields progress. Most people tend to correlate mistakes with falling short and the incapability to achieve success on a level that offers satisfaction. However, Thomas rightfully and sufficiently sheds mistakes under the same positively-connotative words such as “lucky” and “hope.”…

    • 1100 Words
    • 5 Pages
    Great Essays
  • Improved Essays

    Grades should be considered degrading and unacceptable in measuring a child’s learning development progress What if I told you that every single day that kids go to school, they are not prepared for life, but for standardized tests? Would you believe me? How could that be possible? When kids go to school they learn things, right? They accumulate knowledge for their future.…

    • 1210 Words
    • 5 Pages
    Improved Essays
  • Decent Essays

    In Letter to a B Student, Robert Oliphant explains a letter grade does not define your worth, as an individual. Sometimes you may not receive the grade that you were expecting, however, you should not let those result determine who you are as a human being; you are not your grade. Oliphant continues by stating that although an individual may receive a failing grade, that individual does not have to remain a failing student. He also explains that a letter grade does not determine your life success. There are plenty of individuals who were successful in life, but did not meet the grade average of success.…

    • 209 Words
    • 1 Pages
    Decent Essays