Gossip, Judgement And Complaining

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are free of complaints, you put yourself in a powerful frame of mind where you free yourself from victimhood.

RULE 3: Give your best to yourself, to others, and to the world.

TOOL 3: Courage. Have the courage of your convictions, then live your truth powerfully.

ATTITUDE 3: BE GOSSIP-FREE. When you gossip, it is a signal to you and to the world that you lack the courage or power to speak up for yourself, or to speak directly about your concerns.

Gossip, Judgement, and Complaining are close relatives. If not siblings, they are kissing cousins. You usually find them in the same situations, and generally in the same persons. There are a few differences between them, however, and we’ll identify some of those here, as we ask questions that
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What these attitudes make you believe about yourself:

GOSSIP - When you gossip, you send a clear message to yourself that you’re not courageous enough to speak to the person or handle the situation you claim to have concerns about.

COMPLAINING - When you complain, you’re admitting that you’re not capable of coping with events that you didn’t expect. Your complaints are fooling you into thinking that you’re a victim, thus disempowering you.

JUDGEMENT - When you judge others, you reinforce a sense of insecurity and guilt in your own mind. Judging others makes you think that you’ll be just as harshly judged as you are judging.

How to break the habit of Gossiping How to break the habit of Complaining How to break the habit of Judging

STOP GOSSIPING STOP COMPLAINING STOP JUDGING

When you feel tempted to do it…DON’T
When you are with other people doing it…Walk Away
When your friends inveigle you to continue...Make an excuse and run away
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The problem, though, is that these are often false identities that may not be synchronised with how we really see ourselves or want to see ourselves. We’ve only used them because at some point in our life, after we had a ‘bad’ experience, we responded in a particular way and that response made us feel safe. As time progressed, we practised retreating into the automatic responses we and others started identifying as our personality. But much of what we call our personality is often just a collection of automatic responses we’ve come to own and solidify into a role we play on demand. We use these “stock methods” to manipulate

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