This paper will research the topic of forgiveness in marital infidelity. It will explore the conflicts that can lead up to one spouse cheating on the other, the effects it can have on the marital relationship, how children can be effected if they are present in the home and how and by what methods forgiveness can be found, if both spouses are willing to work on both the issues that caused the conflict, the infidelity itself and take the necessary steps to reconcile the relationship with forgiveness.
One of the main things that can destroy a martial relationship is that of infidelity, and having the ability to find forgiveness after one spouse has cheated, does not come easy nor is it simply forgiven. There are many reasons of why infidelity …show more content…
One of the treatments is that of forgiveness intervention. In the forgiveness theory (the other is the cognitive theory), they say that this type of treatment is “crucial for partners who have experienced” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) an issue with marital infidelity. This theory implies the importance of the why the infidelity happened so that they can try to regain the trust and the safety that they felt with their spouse before it was exposed the forgiveness theory basis itself on three steps all of which have been looked at earlier in the paper, which includes “understanding the impact” ” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) of how the infidelity affected the relationship, have the ability to “search for meaning” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) as to why the spouse committed the infidelity and “recovering from the affair” ” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) in order to be able to move forward in the relationship. The need to understand the past issues that led up to this conflict is of valuable importance, having the ability to openly discuss them provides safeness and security that is needed to move forward. By communicating and listening to each other that helps to promote empathy both for themselves as individuals and for them as a couple. By following the steps both spouses gain a better view and …show more content…
More studies and research should be done involving both couples who have survived infidelities and have been able to rebuild both trust and their relationship by working on the conflicts that led up to them, and what methods they found beneficial in doing so and comparing it with others who have experienced the same. More should be done with couples who did not survive the infidelities by delving deeper into why they were not able to put the pieces back together again this type of study and research can be helpful in helping those who are not sure or who are trying to deal with this type of conflict. There are always new methods or theories and ways to both seek and find forgiveness with oneself or with others. Forgiveness can be found in this type of situation, one just has to be willing to do it or to try, granted it infidelities can change the dynamic of the relationship but it does not have to be the cause for ending it. With time, effort, work and love forgiveness both in oneself and one’s spouse can be achieved. 1 Corinthians 13:7 “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (Holy Bible, ESV), love is a key ingredient in finding
One of the main things that can destroy a martial relationship is that of infidelity, and having the ability to find forgiveness after one spouse has cheated, does not come easy nor is it simply forgiven. There are many reasons of why infidelity …show more content…
One of the treatments is that of forgiveness intervention. In the forgiveness theory (the other is the cognitive theory), they say that this type of treatment is “crucial for partners who have experienced” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) an issue with marital infidelity. This theory implies the importance of the why the infidelity happened so that they can try to regain the trust and the safety that they felt with their spouse before it was exposed the forgiveness theory basis itself on three steps all of which have been looked at earlier in the paper, which includes “understanding the impact” ” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) of how the infidelity affected the relationship, have the ability to “search for meaning” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) as to why the spouse committed the infidelity and “recovering from the affair” ” (Howell, Gilbert, Gordon, 2016 p. 122) in order to be able to move forward in the relationship. The need to understand the past issues that led up to this conflict is of valuable importance, having the ability to openly discuss them provides safeness and security that is needed to move forward. By communicating and listening to each other that helps to promote empathy both for themselves as individuals and for them as a couple. By following the steps both spouses gain a better view and …show more content…
More studies and research should be done involving both couples who have survived infidelities and have been able to rebuild both trust and their relationship by working on the conflicts that led up to them, and what methods they found beneficial in doing so and comparing it with others who have experienced the same. More should be done with couples who did not survive the infidelities by delving deeper into why they were not able to put the pieces back together again this type of study and research can be helpful in helping those who are not sure or who are trying to deal with this type of conflict. There are always new methods or theories and ways to both seek and find forgiveness with oneself or with others. Forgiveness can be found in this type of situation, one just has to be willing to do it or to try, granted it infidelities can change the dynamic of the relationship but it does not have to be the cause for ending it. With time, effort, work and love forgiveness both in oneself and one’s spouse can be achieved. 1 Corinthians 13:7 “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (Holy Bible, ESV), love is a key ingredient in finding