Sex Lies And Conversation Summary

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There have been times in everyone’s life where they had some sort of predicament communicating with the gender of the opposite sex. For instance, take an occupation where men and women work in the same workplace as teaching or counseling. They may quarrel over something that don’t even need to be disputed because men and women have different points of view and ways to get their teaching across to students. Deborah Tannen, with a PhD in linguistics, gives illustrations of her advice that may lead to solving problems between genders in her article, “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?” In this article Tannen states that men and women communicate differently and once the genders realize this the …show more content…
When men are out in public they don’t really mind talking about anything. That’s what the women get mad about because when men come home, they have nothing to say or talk about and women think it’s because of them but it really isn’t. Like the guy in Tannen’s article was the life of the party, but he said he said that he was the shy one and his wife did all the talking at home. This caused problems in their relationship. Therefore, the divorce rate is climbing steadily because women think because men have nothing to say that it is because of them so they leave for no real reason. If both spouses can talk about the differences when emotions get high and women need someone to talk, it will be better for the health of the …show more content…
When women share their issues with guys, the men always look for a way to solve the conflict. Women see this as taking the other point of view and think you are disagreeing with them, when you are just trying to find a solution to make things better. One would think that women would be appreciative that guys are trying to help, but they don’t see it that way. Ladies will sometimes just shut down when men offer solutions. Maybe asking if she wants the guy to just listen or does she want feedback? This will always be a problem because often this is drama between the girls, and if you state the other point of view the girl you really like thinks you like the other girl already for no reason at

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