When a conflict between these roles within our family occurs, we usually respond by not trusting our inner feelings and going by the gender roles we grew up with. If we look carefully around us, we will find many traits in men that are not often looked upon in everyday life. Most men in my family from what I have seen are often emotional. Not all men in my family are strong and aggressive all the time, only at times when they need to be. Many men, including my grandfather, are extremely great cooks and extremely creative. All men in my family I believe cry, even when they are alone they need to express their emotions. They do not always show aggression; they submit to others sometimes. I think they feel scared, inadequate and feel pain at some point in their lives even though I have never seen it first hand. There are situations that I have seen when they have become shy and we do things to appear beautiful and young. From what I have seen, men too try to conceal their age.
When I look carefully and try to understand the concept of gender roles, I then realized the men or women in my family, have both the qualities that society ascribes either to men or women. Under pressure from the society, my family members suppress those qualities that are not usually considered appropriate. Although the same time, they seem to pretend to have