Emotional Happiness: The Triangular Theory Of Love?

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People, drawn together by common aid and companionship, rely on one another for the guidance and love needed to survive. Whether platonic or romantic, people partake in the endeavor for emotional closeness to experience genuine and fulfilling relationships. In one psychological study by Dr. Aron titled “The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness,” emotional intimacy is produced through a series of 36 questions. These questions are divided into three sets of 12, with each set containing questions deeper and more probing than the set before. With the full knowledge of their freedom to disclose as much as they want to, participants alternate taking turns answering every question. Through this set of 36 questions, people become active …show more content…
The theory states that “love has three components: intimacy, which encompasses feeling of closeness and connectedness one experiences in loving relationships; passion, which encompasses the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consumption; and commitment, which encompasses the decision that one loves another, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love” (119). The degree of love someone feels depends on the strength of these components, and the type of love depends on the strengths of these components relative to each other. Love with only intimacy is liking, with intimacy and commitment is companionate love, and with intimacy, commitment, and passion, is consummate love (123-124). Thus, the love created in Dr. Aron’s methodology can be “liking.” Liking is used here not to describe just a trivial feeling towards casual acquaintances, but as the “set of feelings one experiences in relationships that truly be characterized as friendships” (citation). One feels bondedness toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment. After 45 minutes of participating in this experiment, people feel real friendship rather than the shallow connection that one would expect the results of only 45 minutes to

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