The Effective Parent
Parents, for the most part, want what is best for their child and try to raise them accordingly. Whether parents chose to acknowledge it or not, everyone of them use different styles to raise their children. Though not all of these styles help the child, they all have some kind of effect, negative or positive on the child.
There are 4 types of parenting styles.
Authoritarian parenting is the more strict style. In this style parents are very controlling of their children and “try to shape, organize, and assess the child 's behavior and attitude according to their supreme values”(Parenting Styles and Social Anxiety among Adolescents). Children do not get any breathing room and they do everything based on their parent’s …show more content…
Teens need someone to talk to; they need someone to mentor them and help them with their problems. Teens can trust their Authoritative parents. Teens that have Authoritarian parents might not want to talk to their parents about their issues out of fear that they will not approve or that they will be punished. Many of these teens see their parents as more of just an authority figure than a responsive parent and they might feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about something so fragile and close to them. Because the parents’ “strictness’ they might show less affection to their children than other parents. These teens especially need a mentor and/or an adult to talk to because of the way they are raised. Research from Baumrind suggests that these children are likely to show signs of “low social activity, lack of confidence and manifest sadness and anxiety”. These children are always doing things based on their parents and this will not help them when they grow older and have to do things on their own.
Uninvolved parenting is the least effective. In fact, it hurts way more than it hurts. Finding pros on this type of parenting was not easy. It is obviously not the best parenting style judging from the name alone. The parent is simply …show more content…
Maryann Rosenthal, co-author of Be a Parent, Not a Pushover, “whatever” and “I don’t care” is something a child might hear from their Uninvolved parents on a daily basis whenever the child might ask for permission, insight, or just someone to talk to. These children are more products of their environment rather than their nurture. These children are influenced by their friends, things they see everyday, people they look up to, and celebrities. research shows that Uninvolved parenting can produce kids with social seclusion, loneliness, fear, and anxiety (Maccoby and Martin, 1983). The kids do not have anyone to love them, and that might hurt the child in the future as they might be hardened. Though this form of parenting seems awful, it’s not all bad. There are some pros that the other styles can not offer to its extent. Crystal Lombardo from http://plantingseedsbook.org/ talks about the Uninvolved style. She reveals a truth that other articles did not present, “ kids, even at a younger age, are able to learn how to be responsible in life and be able to grow up without depending on their parents.” This is a very interesting idea that I never thought about. It makes sense that the children that do not end up suffering with anxiety will be extremely responsible being that they basically raised themselves. This may be a helpful attribute to have but it is still a horrible way to raise a child and it can hurt the child bad. Some examples of effects that kids may
Parents, for the most part, want what is best for their child and try to raise them accordingly. Whether parents chose to acknowledge it or not, everyone of them use different styles to raise their children. Though not all of these styles help the child, they all have some kind of effect, negative or positive on the child.
There are 4 types of parenting styles.
Authoritarian parenting is the more strict style. In this style parents are very controlling of their children and “try to shape, organize, and assess the child 's behavior and attitude according to their supreme values”(Parenting Styles and Social Anxiety among Adolescents). Children do not get any breathing room and they do everything based on their parent’s …show more content…
Teens need someone to talk to; they need someone to mentor them and help them with their problems. Teens can trust their Authoritative parents. Teens that have Authoritarian parents might not want to talk to their parents about their issues out of fear that they will not approve or that they will be punished. Many of these teens see their parents as more of just an authority figure than a responsive parent and they might feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about something so fragile and close to them. Because the parents’ “strictness’ they might show less affection to their children than other parents. These teens especially need a mentor and/or an adult to talk to because of the way they are raised. Research from Baumrind suggests that these children are likely to show signs of “low social activity, lack of confidence and manifest sadness and anxiety”. These children are always doing things based on their parents and this will not help them when they grow older and have to do things on their own.
Uninvolved parenting is the least effective. In fact, it hurts way more than it hurts. Finding pros on this type of parenting was not easy. It is obviously not the best parenting style judging from the name alone. The parent is simply …show more content…
Maryann Rosenthal, co-author of Be a Parent, Not a Pushover, “whatever” and “I don’t care” is something a child might hear from their Uninvolved parents on a daily basis whenever the child might ask for permission, insight, or just someone to talk to. These children are more products of their environment rather than their nurture. These children are influenced by their friends, things they see everyday, people they look up to, and celebrities. research shows that Uninvolved parenting can produce kids with social seclusion, loneliness, fear, and anxiety (Maccoby and Martin, 1983). The kids do not have anyone to love them, and that might hurt the child in the future as they might be hardened. Though this form of parenting seems awful, it’s not all bad. There are some pros that the other styles can not offer to its extent. Crystal Lombardo from http://plantingseedsbook.org/ talks about the Uninvolved style. She reveals a truth that other articles did not present, “ kids, even at a younger age, are able to learn how to be responsible in life and be able to grow up without depending on their parents.” This is a very interesting idea that I never thought about. It makes sense that the children that do not end up suffering with anxiety will be extremely responsible being that they basically raised themselves. This may be a helpful attribute to have but it is still a horrible way to raise a child and it can hurt the child bad. Some examples of effects that kids may