I was four when it happened, my parents were getting a divorce. My family was ending and new one beginning. It sounds like it might not be a bad thing, but it can leave a child very confused. It makes a child wonder what went wrong and if they could of done anything to change it. In America there are about 1,250,000 divorces in each year. (Matthews) We also know that every year over one million children under the age of eighteen are involved in a divorce. That means that roughly twenty-five percent of all children spend time in a step-family. (Matthews) Statistically, it has been shown that divorce can have a negative psychological impact on children, as evidenced by long-term effects, short-term effect, and the solutions. To understand
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The moment the child hears that their parents are legally separating they begin to instantly believe that it is their fault that they did something wrong. They are in shock. Confusion begins to set in and they begin to be so confused that it becomes anger. Adolescence is a time of self-absorption. When parents separate they instantly respond in terms of them selves. Asking questions like why me? Why now? Anger is not limited to situational changes it also influences how teenagers feel about their parents. (Lebowitz) The kind of sadness teenagers feel at the time of divorce is a little more nostalgia. For example, a loss of their childhood family is a form of this nostalgia. They have feelings of anxiety, consistently having thoughts on how the divorce will have an impact on their lives. Most of the anxiety they feel is in relation to their sexuality. They are also often confronted will their parents sexuality. (Lebowitz) So how do parents fix these long-term and short-term effects on left behind in their children. Well if you have long-term effects, the best solution that can be offered is to get them into some sort of counseling or therapy. It will really benefit them even if it takes years. In cases of short-term effects children may simply need to be reassured that everything will be okay and other may need to be in a more positive environment. (Matthews) They need friendly outings involving both parents to cope with the sudden loss of their family
The moment the child hears that their parents are legally separating they begin to instantly believe that it is their fault that they did something wrong. They are in shock. Confusion begins to set in and they begin to be so confused that it becomes anger. Adolescence is a time of self-absorption. When parents separate they instantly respond in terms of them selves. Asking questions like why me? Why now? Anger is not limited to situational changes it also influences how teenagers feel about their parents. (Lebowitz) The kind of sadness teenagers feel at the time of divorce is a little more nostalgia. For example, a loss of their childhood family is a form of this nostalgia. They have feelings of anxiety, consistently having thoughts on how the divorce will have an impact on their lives. Most of the anxiety they feel is in relation to their sexuality. They are also often confronted will their parents sexuality. (Lebowitz) So how do parents fix these long-term and short-term effects on left behind in their children. Well if you have long-term effects, the best solution that can be offered is to get them into some sort of counseling or therapy. It will really benefit them even if it takes years. In cases of short-term effects children may simply need to be reassured that everything will be okay and other may need to be in a more positive environment. (Matthews) They need friendly outings involving both parents to cope with the sudden loss of their family