Section 2: Conduct a Systemic Analysis of Family
I had a pretty awesome childhood that is until the summer of 1975 when our parents sat us down to deliver the news. Candice my oldest sister was 16, Penelope was 15, I was 13, and Melissa my youngest sister was only 5 at the time. We thought we were going to have another sibling and I was hoping for a brother. However instead our mom announced “your father doesn’t love me anymore!” Bam his bags were packed and that was my first real loss in life. Prior to that I grew up in leave-it-to-beaverland.
My early childhood was of privilege. My father was a physician and mother was a stay-at-home mom. I grew up in a small town on the South West coast of Florida called Fort Myers where I lived …show more content…
I see my childhood as having 2 distinct family structures: pre and post divorce. Pre divorce described above allowed me to develop a secure attachment, our family boundaries were clear and there wasn’t any significant losses in my life. These attributes provided positive protective factors and a strong sense of self. However post-divorce when parental attachments changed, blurred boundaries resulted in enmeshment and parentification, and with the indirect loss of my father risk factors would give to poor self-image and social …show more content…
As a result, studies consistently report children show a decline in academic performance, social adjustment, and emotional well-being (Kalter, 1987). This disruption in a marriage brings about intense emotional pain in the parents as well. Feeling of loss, rage, anxiety, and depression are common. In the case with most mothers there is a sense of urgency to return to the work force that comes with new economic pressures. Thus the mother’s emotions, lack of energy and time can impact her relationship with her child (Kalter, 1987).
Developmentally adolescents are finding their own sense of self that is emotionally separate from their parents by investing in long lasting relationships with their peers. Divorce can offset or interfere with this separation substantially. One aspect to resolve this separation conflict is represented by the rebellious teenager trying to escape the overly close, troubled relationship with the custodial parent (Kalter,
I had a pretty awesome childhood that is until the summer of 1975 when our parents sat us down to deliver the news. Candice my oldest sister was 16, Penelope was 15, I was 13, and Melissa my youngest sister was only 5 at the time. We thought we were going to have another sibling and I was hoping for a brother. However instead our mom announced “your father doesn’t love me anymore!” Bam his bags were packed and that was my first real loss in life. Prior to that I grew up in leave-it-to-beaverland.
My early childhood was of privilege. My father was a physician and mother was a stay-at-home mom. I grew up in a small town on the South West coast of Florida called Fort Myers where I lived …show more content…
I see my childhood as having 2 distinct family structures: pre and post divorce. Pre divorce described above allowed me to develop a secure attachment, our family boundaries were clear and there wasn’t any significant losses in my life. These attributes provided positive protective factors and a strong sense of self. However post-divorce when parental attachments changed, blurred boundaries resulted in enmeshment and parentification, and with the indirect loss of my father risk factors would give to poor self-image and social …show more content…
As a result, studies consistently report children show a decline in academic performance, social adjustment, and emotional well-being (Kalter, 1987). This disruption in a marriage brings about intense emotional pain in the parents as well. Feeling of loss, rage, anxiety, and depression are common. In the case with most mothers there is a sense of urgency to return to the work force that comes with new economic pressures. Thus the mother’s emotions, lack of energy and time can impact her relationship with her child (Kalter, 1987).
Developmentally adolescents are finding their own sense of self that is emotionally separate from their parents by investing in long lasting relationships with their peers. Divorce can offset or interfere with this separation substantially. One aspect to resolve this separation conflict is represented by the rebellious teenager trying to escape the overly close, troubled relationship with the custodial parent (Kalter,